Relationship Management Part 1: Screening

This relationship guide like everything on this site is a relationship guide for alpha males only, it’s not a value judgement on all women. The way to use this guide is as as a tool for preventing drama and screening out women who are incompatible with you, not a judgement of these women as human beings.

After being in the game for 20 years I know exactly what to expect from women and exactly what I want. I want to break down all that knowledge down for you guys so you know exactly what to expect and get exactly what you want.

Before you get into any kind of relationship with a woman it’s important to get an idea of what her background looks like and that starts from the second you meet her. You want to try and build a big database of women in your head. This makes it really easy to see the kind of person you’re dealing with right from the get go. To do that you need experience and observation but it’s never too early to start.

There are 3 main types of relationships, casual sex, polyamory and monogamy, all of them come with different criteria. All relationship management should start with proper screening. I’ve given you the key criteria you need to look for and how to apply it to the different types of relationships.

For casual and polyamorous relationships you can date a much broader variety of women because what’s expected of you is very little so its easy to keep things drama free. But with monogamous relationships you need to be very strict with who you date.

By being monogamous, not only do you sacrifice having other women but you put your feelings on the line and are going to have to make a lot of joint decisions together. You do this wrong and you get drama, heartbreak, bickering and divorce.

You do it right and you get a happy, balanced relationship. That’s why it’s so important to make sure you have a quality girl. Someone who is stable, happy, feminine and has a history of monogamy. This is the type of woman who will complement your masculine energy.

I’ve broken things down by the key criteria and how it will present itself in women. This is stuff you need to be asking women right from the start, with that said it should never feel like you’re interviewing her, just bring up questions casually in conversation. Once you really start to understand women you’ll be able to pick off most of the criteria on sight.

Once you have an understanding of the criteria, you can see exactly where they fit in terms of what kind of relationship you can expect with her. Check out part 2 of this series to see the rules for managing those relationships.


Self Esteem

  • Low self esteem women don’t think highly of themselves and don’t take compliments well
  • High self esteem women take compliments well and think highly of themselves


  • Dependent women in relationships value closeness, multiple daily contacts and attending social events together
  • Independent women in relationships strongly value freedom and prefer to live two separate lives

Gender Identification

  • Masculine women tend to have male characteristics like roughness, a crude sense of humor, aggressiveness and tend to value their career over their family
  • Feminine women tend to dress femininely and are more likely to be sweet, gentle and strongly value interpersonal relationships

Leadership Expectations

  • Dominant women are confident, commanding and authoritative
  • They expect to be the leader in a relationship but like all women they are still attracted to confident, commanding men
  • Submissive women want a confident dominant man to take charge and lead inside and outside the bedroom, this leading means her emotions, offering guidance on her life and setting up activities for the two of you

Primary Motivation

  • Love-based women are motivated by having meaningful loving relationships, they tend to have close friends and family and a history of long-term relationships
  • Pleasure-based women are thrill seekers, they like drugs, sex, partying and having fun,
  • Status-based women are very concerned about their rank in society, they strongly value money, power, looks and connections

Dramatic Temperament

  • Dramatic women will react badly to negative situations including crying, screaming, damaging property and making threats
  • Non-dramatic women will handle negative situations with appropriate emotions, usually by withdrawing from the situation


  • A woman who uses a hard test will constantly be testing your frame with teases, insults and questions to see what you’re made of
  • A soft testing woman will be gentle, easy-going and rarely test your leadership

Sexual Compatibility

  • Women who like rough sex need a man who likes the same and will be unsatisfied with a submissive man in bed
  • Women who like gentle sex prefer a more sensitive touch and prefer making love to rough sex
  • Many women will like both depending on their moods
  • Sexual compatibility also means sex drive, how often a week she wants it

Relationship With Her Father

  • A woman’s relationship with her father is the main factor in how she will interact with the men in her life
  • A good relationship with her father means she has a positive image of men and will love you in the same way
  • A bad relationship with her father means that deep down she will have a hard time trusting men and will resent them, eventually those issues will come out on you

Relationship With Her Girlfriends

  • A good relationship with her girlfriends means she is loyal, caring and likable
  • A bad relationship or a lack of female friends is a major red flag, it means she’s probably untrustworthy in general especially around other women’s men

Relationship History

  • A women’s relationship history should be a good indication of what her relationship future will look like
  • If she has a history of monogamous relationships then she will probably be monogamous in the future (no guarantees though)
  • If she has a history of history of short-term relationships, casual dating and cheating than that’s probably what she will do in the future


  • Strong compatibility means you like the same movies, music, humor, types of people and have the same motivations in life
  • Weak commonality means you tend to like different movies, music, humor, types of people and have different motivations in life

Feminist Identification

  • A woman who identifies as a feminist will always resent being told what to do by a man
  • A non-feminist woman won’t resent your leadership

Parents’ Relationship

  • In general, the relationship of a woman’s parents will define her relationships because she’ll internalize a lot of her mother’s behavior towards her father
  • If a woman comes from a patriarchy chances are she’ll expect that kind of relationship for herself
  • If a woman comes from a matriarchy chances are she’ll expect that kind of relationship for herself

Mental Health

  • A mentally healthy woman will have strong coping mechanisms and a lack of self-destructive behaviors
  • A mentally unhealthy woman will have weak coping mechanisms and a history of some or all of the following: eating disorders, abuse, depression, self-injury


  • A possessive woman will be jealous, insecure and constantly needing reassurances of fidelity
  • A non-possessive woman will be trusting and secure in the relationship

Casual Sex

  • Dramatic Temperament: Non-Dramatic
  • Testing: Soft-Testing
  • Sexual Compatibility: Compatible
  • Possessiveness: Non-Possessive

Non-Monogamous Relationship

  • Dependence: Independent
  • Gender Identification: Submissive
  • Dramatic Temperament: Non-Dramatic
  • Testing: Soft-Testing
  • Sexual Compatibility: Compatible
  • General Compatibility: Compatible
  • Possessiveness: Non- Possessive

Monogamous Relationship

  • Self Esteem: High
  • Dependence: Dependent
  • Gender Identification: Feminine
  • Leadership Expectations: Submissive
  • Primary Motivation: Love
  • Dramatic Temperament: Non-Dramatic
  • Testing: Soft-Testing
  • Sexual Compatibility: Compatible
  • Relationship With Her Father: Good
  • Relationship With Her Girlfriends: Good
  • Relationship History: Monogamous
  • General Compatibility: Compatible
  • Gender Identification: Non-Feminist
  • Parents’ Relationship: Patriarchy
  • Mental Health: Healthy
  • Possessiveness: Non-Possessive
  1. Yeah great stuff! I sure wouldn’t mind finding a girl like that for a monogamous relationship. In the mean time I’ll continue my quest towards excellence.

  2. A lot of this I know from experience though I’m not sure when I quote unsure lost it There’s somethings I just can’t manage to put together on how to date again I had a non monogamous relationship almost 6 years and then a girlfriend but it was below standard for the sake of it but being a player isn’t what it was at least I use to get much help from the radio and popular music but that’s not much help I’m glad I found your website lots of information and great with guys who have no clue alot of it is there .

  3. will,
    i love your site, content and presentation. thanks for doing the work sir. i am a divorced man, mid 40s in USA. seems like all the red pill sites cater info to younger men i.e.; 20s, 30s.
    wish i had known this stuff back then. do you know where i can find red pill content for men my age? i’ve been out of circulation for a while, don’t drink or party, bars/club scene seems a little too….
    if you have any thoughts or advice i appreciate your input sir.
    (i purchased both of your books.)
    thank you sir

  4. Hi Drew, thanks for your support I really appreciate it. Wish I had red pill sites in my early 20’s as well, I would have been light years ahead of where I am now.

    As for my thoughts, congratulations on moving forward – that’s the hardest part. I would look into online dating and day game. Nightclubs will be a waste of time. Bars might be decent if they cater to an older crowd but if you’re looking for more of a meaningful relationship day game is where its at.

    The best guy to follow hands down is Blackdragon from, you can also find his stuff on as well as other guys in their 40’s. His book the unchained man is $9.99 and is probably the best lifestyle book available for men – %100 recommend it. He also does consultations I believe. For fitness and HRT stuff this guy is good Keep me posted on your progress.

  5. A lot of quality information on your page. I have watched a few of your youtube videos and you put words to a lot of my experiences the last 20-25 years. I particularly liked the 3-part series on how to have healthy relationships. That has been some of the things i have been missing out of the PUA scene, that i have been kind of part of locally in my country.

    Keep up the great work and good luck on your projects


    John H

  6. Thanks John, I really appreciate your thoughtful words. I’m glad you’re getting value out of the stuff and wish you all the best on your projects as well my man.

  7. What happens if a girl has a bad relations with father but has a lot of good friends. Does that she still will not be loving, caring and loyal towards men?

    Isn’t it sad that women with issues blame all men, isn’t this actually cowardice on her part not to admit and then deal with her issues ?

  8. It means you should really take that into account before you decide to get serious with her. In my opinion, a bad relationship with her dad is the biggest red flag for a potential girlfriend.

    It is sad, because they lose out on having meaningful relationships. With that said, some girls are just unlucky and born with dads who are complete dicks. Occasionally you’ll meet a girl whose done a lot of work on herself and got herself into a positive place. But more likely than not that resentment will come out at you eventually.

  9. I have found a girl that haven’t any relationship before due she haven’t met or fallen for any guy like me those top 1% you always mention in RLD, and have been screening for a couple month and here what I got with which one of your point she passed. Would you still recommend I still gonna date her? Or she a girl must pass every point in that list to the relationship to work?

    Monogamous Relationship

    Self Esteem: High ***PASS***
    Dependence: Dependent ***PASS***
    Gender Identification: Feminine ***PASS***
    Leadership Expectations: Submissive ***PASS***
    Primary Motivation: Love ***PASS***
    Dramatic Temperament: Non-Dramatic ***Half passing due she can cry when she is emotionally sensitive***
    Testing: Soft-Testing ***PASS***
    Sexual Compatibility: Compatible ***PASS***
    Relationship With Her Father: Good ***NOT PASS***
    Relationship With Her Girlfriends: Good ***PASS***
    Relationship History: Monogamous ***NOT PASS***
    General Compatibility: Compatible ***PASS***
    Gender Identification: Non-Feminist ***PASS***
    Parents’ Relationship: Patriarchy ***PASS***
    Mental Health: Healthy ***PASS***
    Possessiveness: Non-Possessive ***NOT PASS***

  10. Hey guys! Not sure if I am allowed here, but I am a woman. I have been removing toxic people from my life over the last few years- two of those people are my parents. I have never had a good relationship with my dad. My past relationships have all been monogamous and most of them long term. I have never cheated. I am very close to my girl friends. I try to “fight fair” during arguments etc. Don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect by any means, but I am honest, loyal, and patient. Soooo how can I be honest, yet not scare guys off because of my family situation? My parents are toxic shaming, hard core southern Baptist Christians that think they are better than everyone else (and make it known). I am a Christian as well, but they cant stand that I don’t live exactly like they do. Once I noticed this, I tried to talk to them about how I felt. They shot me down several times so I cut off all contact in order to protect my own emotional health

  11. Hi Carrie, you seem kind and I understand where you’re coming from. I would try to avoid conflict with your parents and not bring any of this stuff up, and as you get older, and if they are truly toxic, start putting some distance between you and them. I’m all for living a spiritual life, but toxic people who treat you poorly, even if they’re you’re parents are people you want to put some distance in between.

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