Girlfriend Series Part 1: How To Find The Right Girl

In Relationship Management Part 1, we covered the criteria for a monogamous girlfriend, but in this article I wanted to expand on the characteristics of that girl. It’s said that a good girl is hard to find and in what remains of western civilization that is especially true. Part 2 of this series will guide you through moving in with her and part 3 will show you how to deal with a break up.

This guide is for alpha males only and is not politically correct. Political correctness is nothing but lying and manipulating the truth, just like politicians do every day. Here at RLD we prefer the truth.

The politically correct narrative is that gender is just a construct and men and women are equal despite all the genetic and anecdotal evidence to the contrary. This is the basis of all feminist theory and Cultural Marxism. The truth is that no two people are equal in this world.

Men and women should be treated with equal respect but we are very different. Men are more dominant in every way, physically, emotionally and mentally. And this is the exact type of man that women are attracted to. In the right relationship the man is dominant and the woman is submissive. That way instead of fighting your natural instincts you accept them and both people are happy.

Unfortunately this type of thinking is seen as outdated. Instead we get relationships with two people trying to be dominant and competing with each other for power inside and outside the home. The result is fighting, drama and a 50% divorce rate.

99% of a guy’s problems with women is that they get exclusive with the wrong girl. Knowing how to find the right girl is crucial. The right girl will give you balance, love and happiness. The wrong one will give you drama, nagging and unhappiness.

When it comes to an open relationship or having multiple casual partners you have a lot more options in the type of woman you can date. That’s because the expectations are low and there is virtually no joint decision-making.

In monogamous relationships however you need to be much more careful with the type of woman you screen for. Monogamy means repression and joint decision-making. That means you need someone who is going to repress their sexual urges for other guys and you need someone who will yield most of the decision-making power to you. Otherwise you can expect cheating, drama and all kinds of other unfun bullshit. Here’s what you need to know about finding the right girl:

Characteristics Of The Right Girlfriend

1) She’s Pretty But Not Too Pretty

Being pretty is one of the most important characteristics a potential girlfriend can have because you’ll always be happy to look at her. Beauty is like low-grade positive hypnosis and is essential for any kind of deep feelings. I’ve realized, as shallow as this sounds, that I can’t have strong feelings for any girl who is less than an 8.

But too pretty is dangerous. Anyone that’s too pretty, man or woman, is spoiled by their looks and is almost always a raging narcissist. Also you won’t be able to turn your back without some other guy trying to snatch her off your arm. A girl who is too pretty will have too many options which jeopardizes the power dynamics behind the relationship.

2) She’s Happy

Happy girls are a pleasure to be around. Of course no one’s happy all the time but you don’t want a negative girl weighing down your positive, winning attitude.

3) She’s Polite 

Rudeness is a terrible quality in any person. And as a man you definitely can’t tolerate disrespect from your girlfriend. It’s important that she’s polite not just to you but to others. If you catch her snapping at the waitress there is only a matter of time before that behavior comes out on you.

4) She’s Submissive

She’s willing to let you lead the relationship. There is no such thing as equality. In every relationship there is a leader and a follower. When you have two people trying to lead all you get is fighting. That’s why as a dominant man you need a submissive woman. And not just one who is playing submissive to catch you but a woman who is happy to submit and has been looking for a strong man all her life.

There’s only room for one star in the relationship, you, and that’s how she likes it. Shy, submissive girls don’t even want the spotlight. A narcissistic girl will compete with you to be the center of attention, a shy girl will happily let you take it. She wants to see you shine.

When you have a submissive girl you don’t have to worry about someone backseat driving your life or nagging you about where you’re going.  She’s won’t whine about the time you spend working on your mission or getting in your way, but rather will support you in your goals.

5) She Has Medium Confidence

Not too high, not too low. Low self-esteem women won’t be able to have a healthy relationship with you and neither will arrogant narcissists. You want your girl to be right in the middle with healthy self-esteem.

6) She’s Chaste

This means she hasn’t separated sex from emotion and is able to pair-bond more strongly than a promiscuous girl. It’s a fact that the more partners a woman has the more likely she is to get divorced.

Now this doesn’t mean that her thoughts are pure, she’s just more repressed than other girls. This is what you want. Monogamous relationships are based on repression. It doesn’t mean she won’t cheat, it just lowers the probability of her cheating. Why not stack the odds in your favor if you can?

7) You Trust Her

This takes time, careful observation and an extensive background check but is extremely valuable and important. There is no point getting exclusive if you don’t trust her.

This is something you can’t always tell right away but pay attention to the clues. Does she have long-term friendships? If she doesn’t then that’s not a good sign. Does she talk about people behind their backs? If she’s not loyal to others then she won’t be loyal to you.

8) She Cooks And Cleans Naturally 

A girl who cooks and cleans will be happy to come over and bring you delicious things. It also means that if you do choose to get married (with a strong pre-nup and your assets located offshore) it won’t even be a question of who cooks and cleans.

9) Love Is Her First Priority

Love and family makes her happy. A girl who cares more about her career is just a female version of you which means she’ll always be in competition with you. You need a girl who complements you instead. A girl who brings out your nice qualities and makes your life lighter.

10) She Comes From A Traditional Family

This means she won’t be arguing against traditional gender roles and trying to act like man. You’re the man, she’s the woman. You take care of her and she brings love into your life, everyone’s happy.

11) She’s Selfless

It literally makes her happy to make you happy. Not only do girls like this add to your life but it makes you want to make them happy, everyone wins.

You don’t want a spoiled princess making demands of your time and resources, this will wear down your energy and take you away from your mission.

Being selfless also extends into the bedroom. A selfless girl will never tell you to wait to cum. She’ll never ask you to keep fucking her after you’ve exhausted yourself. Sex for her is more about emotional bonding than having an orgasm, although it never hurts to know how to make her cum. The right attitude for sex is you aiming to please her and her aiming to please you, that way everyone is happy.

12) She Doesn’t Like Confrontation Or Arguing 

This should be obvious but I see so many guys fuck this up, why they date argumentative women is beyond me. Make things easy on yourself and only date girls who are easy to get along with. That way your relationship will be easy.

13) She’s Medium Sex Drive

A low sex drive girl is no fun, and a high sex drive girl seems great at first but eventually becomes exhausting. I prefer to be the one initiating sex when I want it. Get a medium sex drive girl.

14) She Makes You Feel Like A Man

You feel stronger around her because she builds you up not brings you down. Don’t date girls that drain your energy or make you feel weaker, date girls who give you energy and make you feel stronger. It’s so easy, all you have to do is choose the right girl but most guys fuck this up.

15) She Makes You Happy

This is what it’s all about. Being with a great girl who makes you happy is the best feeling in the world.

16) She’s Not Materialistic

She never brings up or asks you for money. Now a traditional woman will usually expect you to pay without complaint so you should be prepared to be the traditional man. The difference is that a good girl won’t ask you to buy her things or try to hustle you for money. Any time a girl asks you for money or to buy her something should be seen as a massive red flag.

17) She Takes Care Of Herself

Her makeup, grooming and style is on point every every day. Since you take good care of yourself you want the same in a girlfriend.

18) She’s Feminine 

Not only does she accept traditional gender roles but she is naturally feminine. She doesn’t need femininity workshops to learn how to act like a woman.

Dating a feminine woman will bring out the protective nurturing side of you. You’ll know you really care about her when you start thinking about her well-being when you’re not around.

19) She Admires And Respects You

You want a girl who sees you in the way you want to be seen. Who looks up to you with admiration and respect. Who values your opinion and looks to you for wisdom and guidance. This is a great feeling.

Don’t waste your time with girls who constantly question your judgement or try to cut you down with snarky, sarcastic comments.

20) She’s Middle Class

A lower class girl will be too rough and difficult to relate to and an upper class girl will be spoiled and expensive. Upper class girls also won’t understand or fully respect your struggle towards financial freedom because they have no idea how hard it is. Middle class girls are the most grounded and as an ambitious guy you can bring her to a higher standard of living that she’ll appreciate you for.

  1. This article is perfect. I am in the middle of writing one very similar, but looks at finding the perfect girl from a bit of a different direction. It will be up next week! Stay tuned!

  2. Haha are you either a guy or a girl.
    First off men want women who can stfu and make a sandwich. Second we want nice , feminine women who will serve us as companions. We don’t want bitchy attitudes.

    Nice blog Will , i was screening my women and it appears she is great

  3. Haha, loved the article. It took me awhile to understand the truth of what you are saying. When we as men are young, we equate our happiness and getting our d*ck licked as being close to synonymous. So we convince ourselves that this loud, obnoxious, crazy, disrespectful chick is making us happy in our relationship. The Pu%*y blinds us to all her shortcomings, and may even convince us that we even like “her for who she is”. It’s not until we are older that some of us realize that it is only pu$#y, and is a cheap trinket to trade our dignity, self-respect, and happiness for. But a truly feminine woman, has more to offer than what is between her legs. A truly feminine women will bring out the best you. You will feel like you can conquer frontiers, and create empires. Not because she nags you. But because she not only touches, but she brings out that truly masculine part of you.

  4. Your article is great and on point. The nagging and bitchy girls will disagree with your article but let us let them be

  5. Your article was quite informative for me and I must admit I do agree with your image of the “right girl”. I realized that, subconsciously, I’ve been doing my best to be the right girl, guess it’s something I got from my parents’ relationship. Made me quite happy to find out that it seems like I fit to most of the things on the list, except maybe the first one with no make-up part. But being twenty years old, I haven’t had a serious relationship yet, being the “nice and feminine” girl hasn’t been working so far. So do you know how many guys thinking the way you do are out there? Not so many, right …

    And by the way, why is it so bad to be sarcastic? Not to your man, of course, but as a harmless joke…

  6. Hey Natalie, I’m glad you liked the article. I think a lot of guys out there think like I do but at your age most guys just want to have fun and aren’t thinking about anything serious. Don’t worry about rushing into anything right now, you’ve got plenty of time for that, all you have to do is wait for a guy who is going to want the same thing. Stay nice and feminine because its your true nature and if you want a strong, confident man that is what he’s going to be looking for.

    I’m also guessing you’re from Eastern Europe, for the guys reading the comments section notice the difference between how a girl from a country where traditional femininity is accepted responds as opposed to the aggressive responses from North American women.

  7. Sarcasm is often veiled anger in disguise. It is usually never truly harmless. There is always some issue there. When a woman uses it against her man it often used hide her feelings of anger,resent, and the like. It often snowballs into greater forms of disrespect.

  8. The next tier of this classic evaluation of dominate and submissive gender roles as it relates to relationships, is that women, like all things can be broken and tamed, with no cruelty involved. What if you come across the hottest girl you’ve ever seen but she doesn’t fit the bill of what an ideal alpha male mate should be: a submissive, sweet, dummy.

    The real test of an alpha male is to dominate all, not some, of the females you encounter…and it’s doable without being verbally or physically abusive.

    The answer is leverage. Before you hit it, they have most of it; after you hit it, you have it. After sex, you’ve accomplished your mission and if the relationship ended, you’d walk away with some since of accomplishment, she will feel used and abandoned.

    You are the leverage, when she invest in you emotionally. As much as the times have changed, and gender roles have flipped, Women will always be slaves to their emotions…and weak men will be slaves to the pussy by jumping through hoops to get it and keep it.

    Knowing this. Make them fall in love with you and stay in love, by using yourself (leverage) to break her will and conform to what you want.

    Don’t have sex with her, and become her boyfriend right of way. No, you make her bend to your sexually needs and get her mind focused on pleasing you. During this time, her mind is being conditioned to pleasing you, but not without her own agenda. She wants you to be her man, her husband, the father of her children.

    As time goes by, she will question the seriousness of the relationship, and complain, and whine, and threaten to take away the sexually component — you stay steadfast, “sorry you feel that way. Maybe we should take away the sex because I don’t want you getting hurt.”

    The leverage she thought she had is now gone…but it’s not over. She still wants you. Emotionally and because women want what they perceive they can’t have. Be friends with her, until she comes back with her tails between her legs.

    You do this process until she feels lucky just to be standing next to you. She can’t let you go emotionally so she can’t settle for another guy.

    And after enough time has passed, and you feel ready and confident she’s completely subdued. Then you advance the relationship slowly: committed relationship, then living together first before marriage.

    Remember, as the commitment increase, so does her leverage. Make sure she is subdued before you move forward. You’ll know when she starts resembling the woman described in this article. Discipline her with the constant fear of losing you if she shows any selfishness or disrespect. All women can be broken. It’s their own will that often gets in the way of their own happiness. Get them to let go, and free themselves by surrendering to you, and they’ll love you for it. They don’t call it the battle of the sexes for nothing

  9. Hey Jay, I agree with a lot of what you’re saying but I’d rather have a girl who comes correct right out of the box. Why make it harder on myself if I can make it easier? I can rig the odds and probabilities in my favor with no potential cost or consequences. I like my health, wealth and relationships to be easy. Challenge can be fun but I prefer it in something I can turn on and off on a whim, like a video game. With a woman there are too many messy potential implications. But to each their own.

  10. On point post. So so so accurate. My friends are always astounded by how drama free my relationship is. Took me 3 years to settle down after losing my virginity & ironically I met her during the day, which relates to your other post about how these are the best quality girls.

  11. Nice article, Will!
    Could you elaborate on “being chaste”?
    What number do you think is a relatively “safe” lay count and how negatively weighs if a girl is way over that?

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