Sexual energy is the energy of life. Our primary purpose, as designed by our creator is to replicate. The energy in your ejaculation is the most powerful, concentrated energy you have for that very reason. One ejaculation has literally 200 – 500 million sperm, enough to father an entire continent.
Your sexual energy is the essence of your lifeforce, or chi or whatever word you want to call it.If you don’t believe me, try m@sturb@ting 3 times in a day and then going to the gym and trying to break your personal best on the bench press – I bet you won’t even be able to lift 80% of your max.
How To Transmute Your Sexual Energy
The Problem With Ejaculation
Think of your energy like a car battery, when you ejaculate all the time you’re constantly draining that car battery. When you’re young, you can get away with this, but the older you get the more every ejaculation takes it’s toll.
Ejaculation is problem of many levels, not only does it drain your energy, but it destroys your mood. The height of sexual pleasure comes with a major boost in your key neurotransmitters: dopamine, serotonin, GABA levels are all elevated and reach a peak in org@sm. It’s why ejaculation is so addictive, you want that high, the problem is the second after you ejaculate, those levels crash.
Some guys feel relaxed after ejaculation, but many guys, myself included (if I ejaculate too frequently) get post org@smic depression. If I ejaculate after a month of restraint, it’s barely noticeable, but ejaculating every day like I used to is a mood destroyer.
Frequent ejaculation is the best way to destroy your mood and energy. Not only that, ejaculation causes the Coolidge Effect, which in layman’s terms translates to getting bored of girls. Every player knows that the more women you f*ck, the faster you start to get bored of a new girl, sometimes only wanting to f*ck her once.
Getting a lot of girls sounds cool, and for the first year or two it’s a fun time, but casual sex gets boring real fast. Not to mention the ethics of f*cking a girl once and never calling her again doesn’t make you feel that great about yourself when you know you’re hurting someone’s feelings.
I remember my wake up call very clearly. I used to spend all day selling clients and all night selling and chasing down girls. I spent all my free time chasing women and all of the next morning being at work being exhausted.
I remember leaving a girls house at 2 AM on a weeknight knowing I had to be up at 6 AM the next day for a job I hated. My cell phone battery died and there we’re no cabs running, so I had to wait outside, in the minus 30 degree Canadian winter to get on the vomit comet bus with a bunch of drunk, degenerate kids for an hour ride bus trip home. Bleary eyed and exhausted, all I wanted was to be back home in my own bed.
It was then I knew I had to make a change. All the time I spent chasing girls only amounted to be exhausted and depressed from all the loss. Energy I could have been using to build a business so that I wouldn’t have to go into a job I hated every day.
The Transmutation Solution
The key to solving the ejaculation problem is being able to transmute or redirect your sexual energy. From raising your energy levels to increasing your mood to increasing your focus in business, ejaculating as infrequently as possible is the absolute best thing you can do.
If non-ejaculation was a pill it would be the most profitable pill on the planet. Not just that, but if you have an interest in greatness, in building something beyond yourself, transmuting your energy into your work is essential.
The automobile, the electric bulb, the refrigerator and the smartphone are just a few examples of sexual energy transmuted into success. We’d still be living in darkness if Thomas Edison had been staying out until 2 AM trying to chase down 6’s in the club. And you wouldn’t be reading this because the internet wouldn’t exist.
Unfortunately, most guys can’t get it together, if they’re not chasing down girls, they’re wasting they’re energy in the basement ejaculating to pixels while the wife is upstairs sleeping. The result is that most guys don’t make it past mediocrity.
Napoleon Hill devotes an entire chapter in his excellent book Think And Grow Rich and explains the phenomenon this way:
“This orgy of indulgence may account for the shortage of great leaders. No man can avail himself of the forces of his creative imagination, while dissipating them.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
If that’s not enough motivation, think of it from the perspective of a playboy. If you can’t control your libido, some woman will always be dragging around by it. If you still don’t believe me, you can take it from Victor Pride on how he harnessed his energy into building his business.
What You’ll Notice
Within a week of no ejaculation you’ll notice at least a 10% boost in mood and energy. After 2 months that will only increase. And after 8 months, which is my no PMO personal best, the impact is massive:
- Tons of energy
- Mood through the roof
- Cyclops laser beam eye contact
- Stable, calm emotions
- Much deeper ability to bond with your girl, especially during sex
- No dopamine crash/Coolidge effect after sex
- Massive increase in focus on your business and personal goals
- Better workouts and beating your personal bests
- Pride in having control over your libido
Levels Of Ejaculation
With everything said about the positive results of no ejaculation, controlling your sexual energy is not easy. And there are levels to it. And like all things, you don’t need to go straight into the deep end of the pool, you can just aim to do better, at least to start.
These are the levels:
- Indescriminate ejaculation
- Awareness that ejaculation drains your energy
- Ejaculating twice per week
- Ejaculating once a week
- Ejaculating once per month
- Not ejaculating at all
- Recirculating your energy into tantric/karezza style bonding sex with your woman
- Using your extra energy to succeed in the gym and in your mission
Aim to do the best you can, get used to the plateau and then move on to the next one. You also might want to look to the NO F@P communities for strategies, tactics and encouragement.
You might have blue balls your first week or so but that will go away. You’ll recognize that your constant sexual hunger was from your addiction to ejaculation. And when you quit ejaculation, outside of some moments of really strong desire, you’ll actually feel a lot calmer.
P*rn
When it comes to sexual transmutation, ejaculation is the major factor, but p*rn also has a big impact on your energy levels, mood and focus.
The major problem with p*rn is that it downregulates your dopamine receptors. For some guys who struggle with p*rn addiction, this leads to them not being able to get excited enough with a woman that they can’t get hard. For other guys, they can still get hard, but sex with a real woman isn’t as thrilling as having 8 tabs of p*rn open.
Much like ejaculation, the ideal amount of p*rn to watch is none. With that said, we live in the age of temptation, so again it’s about levels. If you can quit p*rn entirely, that’s terrific. But if you can’t, match your p*rn consumption to ejaculation frequency. Let’s say you got ejaculation down to once a week as a reward for a hard week’s work, then keep your p*rn watching to your ejaculation day.
Lastly, if you are going to watch p*rn when you ejaculate, aim to stick to POV p*rn, where you’re picturing yourself in the action as opposed to watching another guy, at least that way you’re not putting yourself as the observer and disconnecting from the act of sex.
Energy Work
Outside of just using pure willpower, you also have the option to learn how to injaculate and move that energy around your body. This isn’t some mystical, hippy stuff, it actually works in real life, I know this for a fact because I can do it. Ejaculation and org@sm are too different things, and it’s the org@sm that kills your energy.
I can’t do it with a girl, because the stimulation at the point of no return is too intense. But I can have multiple dry org@sms, and transmute that sexual energy up my spine, into my kidneys and into my heart chakra. To see exactly how to do that, check out my article on how to have intense, multiple org@sms.
With all that said, I’ve also experimented with pure no PMO, and that’s a more powerful energy than dry, recirculated org@sms. I still do tantric mast@#bation as one of my rewards, but pure no PMO is ideal. Also if you’re already No F@P and No PMO, I’d advise you NOT to try tantric mast@$bation, because it will be very easy to slip back into your old p*rn habits, and for at least the first few months you’ll end up accidentally ejaculating on your path to mastery.
Sex
As you might have figured out, reducing or eliminating ejaculation is going to change the way you have sex. It’s not that having lots of casual sex with lots is girls is morally wrong, but we’re just talking about higher levels of consciousness here.
And believe me, if I hadn’t experienced it first hand, I would have thought it was bullsh*t. But the absolute best kind of sex you can have is slow, heart centered bonding, non-ejaculatory, Karezza/Tantric style sex.
Again, I can’t have multiple dry org@sms with a girl, but when I go really slow I can create insanely happy, bliss states with a girl I care about. And you can consciously move your energy up from your lower chakras (your pelvis and prostate), into higher chakras like your kidneys and heart. And I’m telling you, you only have to experience this once to see it as the truth. And the longer you’ve gone without ejaculating, the more powerful the experience.
This is coming from a guy who has every type of kinky sex with a girl, and those experiences don’t even come close to slow bonding sex with a girl you love. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve slipped up more than a few times in that last year and had sloppy, drunk casual sex and ejaculated. But just like getting drunken late night McDonald’s, you enjoy it at the time, but the second it’s over you regret it.
Knowing that you shouldn’t ejaculate changes your perspective on sex. I can tell you, outside of some occasional moments of weakness, chasing down a girl I don’t have strong feelings for, to have condom sex and no ejaculate doesn’t hold much appeal anymore.
Unfortunately, finding a girl you care about doesn’t happen overnight. When you’ve maxed out your SMV, getting women can be relatively easy. But finding a girl you care about means going on a lot of dates, putting in the time and playing the numbers game.
What that means is you’re going to go through periods where you either don’t have a girl you care about, and some of those girls might be the wild, party girl type who’s not into slow bonding, tantric stuff.
Depending on where you are in your transmutation progress, how busy you are, whether you’re doing a celibacy reboot and how your situation is with girls, you’re going to have to adjust your program accordingly.
Here are your options from least ideal to most ideal:
- Tantric mastur@#tion and sex and ejaculation twice per week
- Tantric mastur@#tion and sex and ejaculation once per week
- No PMO except for sex and ejaculation twice per week
- No PMO except for sex and ejaculation once per week
- Tantric mast@#bation and celibacy
- Tantric mast@$bation and tantric/karezza sex with a high quality MLTR
- No PMO and tantric/karezza sex with a high quality girlfriend who you love and who loves you
One thing to note, if you’re worried about ejaculating with a new girl, you can always explain to her that you’re trying to feel sex on a deeper, more bonding level, and that you want to go slow. You can even say you want to wait a few dates to get to know her. Your typical party girl might not be interested in this, but many girls will be happy to go slow with you.
Lastly make sure to check out Reuniting.info, it’s the ultimate resource on higher consciousness sex. This is especially important to check out if you have a girlfriend or wife, and may very well save your relationship from the Coolidge effect.
For any type of long term relationship, it’s a must for me to meet a girl who’s on the same page sexually, otherwise I know, with mathematical precision that I’ll end up losing interest in sex within 3 months to 6 months at the most, and eventually she’ll lose interest as well. I would guess at least half of all breakups/divorces begin when people get bored of having sex with each other.
With that said, no PMO and no sex will be a lonely period. Whenever I do a no PMO run I’m always having sex. The key is to have a good woman, ideally a girlfriend. Not only do your affection needs get met, but you massively increase your ability to pair-bond, and you’re able to recirculate all that latent sexual energy.
My Experience
My experience with ejaculation control started at 20 when I first read Mantak Chia’s classic book The Multi Org*smic Man. I didn’t get serious however until my late 20’s when I mastered dry org@sms. At that point I realized ejaculation was becoming a major energy drain and I had to work on solving the problem. With that said I was still chasing girls and ejaculating with them.
By my early 30’s I’d mastered the energy management. I’d still make mistakes and ejaculate but I developed a lot better control. I also started to get deeper into Tantric and Karezza style sex and started having amazing, mindblowing deep bonding sex.
In my final year of sales I needed a ton of energy, not only was I selling full time at a demanding corporate job, but I was working on RLD in every free moment outside of that. In order to get the energy I needed, I went 8 months no PMO, while having deep bonding sex one to three times a week.
Without a doubt, it was the most focused, positive and high energy period I’ve had in the last decade and a half. Not to mention, going that long without ejaculating made deep bonding sex insanely good.
When I didn’t have a girl I cared about, I’d occasionally slip back into bad patterns, but I made the best of it. My last major binge was when I first moved to Thailand, but by the end of the month I was struggling to get out of bed, and it became very clear that binging was no longer an option.
At that moment I started to really lose interest in just pure casual sex. Instead of having to restrain myself like before, it just no longer became appealing.
It still happens from time to time after a night out drinking, but I don’t binge like I used too. When I wake up drunk, sluggish and with a girl in my bed that I want out of my room so I can start my day, that’s enough of a reminder.
My mind has truly moved beyond low consciousness sex. I struggle more with junk food than I do with junk sex. When I find a girl I care about, I can have amazing sex. When I don’t, I settle for slow/mid speed semi-bonding sex with a girl I like.
If I’m working on a major project for a month or so, and don’t have anyone special, I’ll usually go celibate and alternate between tantric mast@#bation and a no PMO reboot.
Over the next 5 years I’d like to get to a point where I’m either having deep bonding Karezza sex with a girl I care about or pure no PMO/no F@P in between periods of not having a quality woman. But we’ll see how that goes, I have tons of personal development projects I’m working on and I plan on just letting this one play out organically.
I still can’t do multiple org@sms during sex, but I can do energy recirculation and create incredible bliss states, which is is good enough. Maybe if I found a girl who was hardcore into tantra I might try to master energy recirculating org@sms during sex, but it’s not a big deal, just being able to move sexual energy into the heart chakra is amazing.
Conclusion
Depending on your progress, this might be a lot to take in at once or maybe you’re not sure if it’s for you. All I can ask is this, experiment with it on your own. If someone told me at 20 that not ejaculating was the key to high energy and feeling great, I wouldn’t have believed them, or I wouldn’t have thought it was worth it. At 35 I can say 100% that it’s worth it, and ejaculation management and sexual transmutation is an absolutely crucial part of your personal development.
If you’re not ready to give up casual sex and ejaculation completely, maybe just focus on doing it less and transmuting your sexual energy more, that’s what I did.
Lastly I recognize that there is a good chance you found my site through one of my articles on dating or having sex, as the bulk of my traffic comes from those avenues. I still stand by those products, if that’s what you’re looking for. If you’re young and just getting in the game, running around picking up girls for a few years can be really fun.
But as you get older and evolve, I want you to know there are better options. That’s why I’ve made a conscious effort over the last few years to direct your energy to higher channels, and will continue to in the future.
The key is not to suppress/shame your sexual instincts from the outside but to use your awareness on what really makes you happy and gently allow change to happen from the inside.
Your sexual energy is a wild beast, so don’t get upset if you can’t control it right away. Focus on gentle change taking baby steps up the ladder, and use the better feelings and results in your business that you generate as further motivation to stay moving forward. I promise you, you won’t regret it.
