You are the questions you ask yourself
Good questions get good answers, garbage questions get garbage answers.
Garbage in, garbage out.
If you want to change your reality you need to start changing the questions you ask yourself.
When you ask yourself questions like:
Why am I such a loser?
Or why do bad things always happen to me?
Or why do I always f*ck everything up?
You get answers like:
Because I’m worthless.
Or because I have bad luck.
Or because I’m a f*ckup.
These answers don’t help you
They only make whatever problem you have worse.
To solve your problems you need to ask the RIGHT questions.
Because when you ask the right questions you get the RIGHT answers.
And the right answer is the answer that makes your life better.
Every question you ask yourself should have that outcome in mind.
To get the right answer, the first question you need to ask is always:
What’s my problem?
Because you can’t solve your problem until you recognize what your problem is.
Your problem could be with your health, wealth, relationships or any number of things.
Whatever it is, you need to figure out exactly what your pain point is at that particular moment.
Once you figure out the problem, the next question invariably is:
How do I solve this problem?
This is the most important question you can possibly ask yourself.
I know it sounds incredibly simple, and it is, but it’s also incredibly effective.
With this question I’ve solved these problems among many others:
- Being skinny
- Being disorganized
- Working a job I hated
- Not getting women
- Being depressed
- Having low energy
- Having joint pain
- Being broke
- Living in a cold, miserable country
When you ask yourself how to solve a problem, you get an answer.
It might not always be the right answer, but it’s always a step in the right direction.
To get the right answer you just have to keep at it
Try it again from different angles.
Read everything, forums, blogs, books, whatever it takes until you find an answer that makes sense.
Then once you get that answer, pursue it – doggedly, tenaciously until that problem is solved.
Pursue it like a pit bull possessed until you get what you want.
If you’re in pain, you owe it to yourself to solve that problem.
If you can do that consistently you’ll make massive changes in every single area of your life.
And those massive changes all start with the same question:
How do I solve this problem?
How do I get from A to B?
What do I have to do this year, this month and this week to solve this thing?
How to I break this down into manageable tasks and set up an action plan to make it happen?
How do I add 10 lbs. of muscle this year?
How do I get a great girlfriend who’s going to support me in my mission?
How do I add $10,000 to my income?
But asking questions doesn’t just apply to your outer reality
It applies just as much to your inner world.
Whether it’s doubt, depression or desperation.
In my article on Why Positivity Is The Only Path, Z commented:
“i think the crucial thing here is “execution”. it is quite easy to _understand_all of the above, but retraining your own mind to get out of doubt/depression etc. is still very difficult.”
I understand where Z’s coming from.
I understand what it’s like to feel like there isn’t even a way out.
I know because I’ve been there myself.
And I know that right now you might be thinking:
- Will you don’t understand
- Or it’s just too hard
- Or I just don’t know if I can do it
- Or it works for you Will but not for me because I’m different than you
I know because I used to have the same answers.
I had those answers until I changed my questions.
When you start asking the right questions, you start getting the right answers.
Because Z’s right, execution is everything
And I’m going to give you the secret to execute on an expert level.
To execute effectively you only need two things: the right tools and the right attitude.
The right tools are the right questions.
The right attitude is having faith that you can find the right answers.
The right question, when you find yourself fighting off the fog of depression is:
What do I have to do to be consistently happy?
Or if consistent happiness is too daunting, start with what do I have to do to at least be OK ?
Or even, what do I have to do to at least not to be depressed?
Or even, what do I have to do to at least not be depressed today?
What do I have to do to feel 15, 10 or even 5% better?
Start as small as you have to.
Just start asking the questions and you’ll start getting the answers.
Some great answers that work for me are:
- Take a break from work and relax for a few minutes
- Get some caffeine in you
- Do yoga to release tension and raise your GABA levels naturally
- Have a small amount of carbs to even out your blood sugar
- Hit the gym to pump up your endorphins and neurotransmitters
- Stand up and take deep powerful breaths
- Go for a ride on your motorcycle
- Take ZMA and 5 HTP before I go to sleep
- Do karezza
- Go for a swim
- Work on your mission
- Go for dinner with friends
- Watch Family Guy
- Ignore your negative thought patterns by labeling them as unproductive
- Manage your expectations for the future
In my experience, changing your physical state is often the most powerful way to change your mood.
For me, 25 minutes of medium intensity cardio is the best non-drug mood lifter there is.
But everyone’s different, once you start asking this question enough you’ll find what works for you.
And when you do you’ll be shocked at the changes that can happen within a year, or even a month.
You’ll wake up one day to find that you’re a different man
And that you feel better.
And that you can control your mood.
And that you can accomplish the goals you set for yourself.
And then you look back at who you used to be and you almost can’t believe what you’ve become.
And I promise you this:
IT ALL STARTS WITH CHANGING YOUR QUESTIONS
Here are some other killer questions that I use every day that might work for you:
- How do I find a way to win?
- What do I need to do to feel good right now?
- What’s my next move?
- How do I get this thing done?
- What’s the most productive thing I can be doing right now?
If my questions don’t work for you that’s okay.
You just have to find the ones that do.
Because by asking the right questions you create space for the right answers.
You open the door to a positive present and a positive future.
I’m not asking you to believe me, I’m just asking you to open the door, just a little bit.
Just allow yourself the possibility
What if I could feel better? What would I have to do to get there?
What if I could get in great shape? What would I have to do to make that happen?
What if I could make six figures? How would I do that?
By Changing Your Questions, You Change Your Focus
Instead of focusing on the problem you focus on the solution.
And when you pursue that solution you change your reality.
But don’t take my word for it, test it out for yourself and see what happens.