How To Be The Man You Want To Be

Self hatred is not liking who you are.

You stop liking yourself when you do things that you hate in others…

Acting rude, acting weak, acting stressed, acting angry, acting whiny.

As opposed to acting like and BEING the man you want to be NOW.

Because NOW is all that exists.

As opposed to taking actions that you admire in other people

Actions like:

  • Being cheerful and charming
  • Being humble in the face of praise
  • Being cool, calm and collected under pressure
  • Being positive under all circumstances
  • Setting and achieving audacious goals for yourself
  • Selling emotion instead of indulging emotion
  • Being a state generator and lifting up the people around you

If you’re not happy with who you are, start BEING the man you want to BE today, in the NOW.

And continue to BE that man, hour after hour, day after day, year after year.

Until choosing the right actions becomes automatic and people recognize you as the man you want to be.

It’s as simple as that….

Simple, but not easy – the key is consistency.

Consistency and vigilance…

Vigilance, vigilance, vigilance all day, always and in all ways.

This is how every man you admire became the man he wanted to be.

Mick Jagger was an effeminate, upper middle class, English art student.

Until he BECAME the greatest rock and roll star of all time and convinced millions to buy in to his image.

But he BECAME first…

And proved second, through consistency and vigilance.

But you don’t have to model rockstars…

You can model whoever you want.

Or you can model your future self, the best version of yourself that you want to be.

And act as if it’s 10 years from now and you’ve BECOME that man and achieved what you wanted to achieve.

If you’re short on motivation, it means you’re short on pride.

Not the negative narcissistic type of pride, but pride in your character and self reliance.

As a man it’s your character that makes you who you are.

It’s your character that can’t be taken away from you.

So choose to have pride in your character and don’t do things that degrade yourself.

Don’t do things that make you feel bad about yourself.

Take actions that make you feel good about who you are.

Choose character over the weakness of the flesh and you won’t be disappointed.

Stop indulging emotions and start selling emotions because sales is state transference.

And all life is sales.

Indulging emotions is for children and the mentally weak.

Whether you like it or not, you’re selling every time you communicate.

With your words, body language and actions.

And if you want respect you NEED to communicate that you’re worthy of it.

By choosing to BE the man that you and others would admire.

And sacrificing the need to indulge and vent petty and unproductive emotions.

In summary:

  1. Choose the man you want to be either modeling a man you admire or modeling your future self
  2. BE that man starting today, because the first person you need to sell is yourself
  3. Continue to be that man day in and day out.
  4. Be vigilant always and in always.

Lastly, if you want my help in becoming the man you want to be, sign up for my peak performance coaching program and I’ll help you BE that man starting today.

  1. will free-MEN. love your content man! Especially the tile format on the home page, very google keeps’esque. what theme are you using?

  2. This is an awesome summary. You have to make a winning character / persona and act it out consistently. If it fails or doesn’t fit the situation (I know my work persona wouldn’t be too good for dating or etc), simply try a different one. Laws of Power by Greene, number 25 is key: “Working on yourself like clay should be one of your greatest and most pleasurable life tasks. It makes you in essence an artist… an artist creating yourself.”

    I love the idea in your video and summary #2 of the text that the first person you need to sell on your persona is yourself.
    I’m not gonna lie: I still do the self-affirmation stuff in the mirror most mornings on work days. It works, especially on the days when you don’t really feel like playing that part. Good stuff, Will!

  3. Before the stones, Mick Jagger was studying at the London School of Economics. He has always been an excellent salesman and a total bad ass. Always with his mind on his money.

    Thanks for your content Will. It’s always great to be reminded to ‘screw the heid’ as we say in Bonnie Scotland

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