The Secret To Success

The secret to success, the real secret, is that there is no secret. No book, no pill and no seminar is going to make you successful. No amount of wishful thinking or positive intent will get you what you want. Everything you want is a scarce resource that you have to compete for until the day that you die.

Resources are limited and wants are unlimited. The nature of the system means you’re not supposed to get what you want.

You’re supposed to have a shitty job, a shitty sex life and a shitty body. You’re supposed to be unhappy about it. You’re supposed to live for the weekend. You’re supposed to accept it. You’re supposed to be too stupefied by poverty, work and distractions to be able to change.

For one person to win, many people have to lose. For every Brad Pitt there are a million broken dreams. Winning is unnatural. You’re not supposed to win. Losing is natural. You’re supposed to lose.

You’re supposed to live a life of quiet desperation. Predators understand this. They build their success off the backs of losers. Predators sell losers fantasy solutions, fantasy dreams, fantasy secrets.

The Secret Is Bullshit

In reality they don’t give a fuck about you, only your money. No one cares if you succeed. Most people are too busy getting beat down by their own problems to even think about you. Maybe only a handful of people care about you and that’s if you’re lucky.

Everything you want you have to do yourself. Don’t expect a mentor. Don’t expect people to help you. Don’t expect people to understand. Instead expect people to disappoint you. Expect business partners to betray you. Expect people to sell you bullshit dreams.

That’s the bad news

The good news is that just by taking action you’re ahead of most guys. Most guys don’t even try. Most guys are lazy, fearful and undisciplined. Just by trying you’ve beaten most of your competition.

The good news is that by moving forward when things get hard you’ve beaten the rest. Most guys that try quit when things get hard. Whenever things get hard for me I remind myself that this is where other guys quit. That gives me the fuel to keep going.

To get what you want you have to take action. You need to work harder than the other guy. You need to work smarter. You need to sacrifice more. You need to endure more. There’s no other way. There’s no secret.

To get what you want you have to be willing to do what other men won’t. You have to work when your friends are going out. You have to save money when other people are spending. You have to focus when other people are relaxing.  You have to keep going when others are quitting. That’s what separates the winners from the losers.

I worked like a dog while my friends were partying, now I have a business that pays for my lifestyle while I sleep. I saved my money while other people were spending it, now I have a bankroll of cash. I learned game and now I have more women then I can handle.  My life was hard, now I live in paradise and my life is easy and bright.

I succeeded for no other reason then because I willed it. I kept going when I was scared, tired, uncertain and depressed. If you’re scared, tired, uncertain and depressed, then I’m talking to you through these words. It can and will get better, I promise you. You just have to keep going.

I’m living my dream because I took action, because I worked hard, because I worked smart and above all because I always believed in myself.

Do the same gentlemen and take what’s yours

  1. great shit again, thanks. I bought a lot of seminars, thinking positive literature etc. Never helped. The only thing that helped me was to work harder and eat more shit than the other men competing with me. I am not positive, I look often angry. Not saying that this is good but this is hard-wired in my brain since childhood and hard to change. However this “bad attitude” does not stop me from succeeding and having my first 10k / month in June. I see a lot of other “positive” and “chilled” guys fail because they are lazy as fuck.

    I might be a bit of an intrusive question but may I ask how you make your money? Just in general, no details asked! I am curious because I love your blog and read all articles but I dont think that you can make serious money with it. (and if you dont want to tell, I fully understand then please answer my questions under “20 training mistakes” :-) thanks )

  2. Thanks Alexander. Congrats on 10k a month, that’s a great achievement.

    To answer your question I’m on pace to make about $1,000 from my Tinder book this month which will cover all my expenses in Thailand. To give you an idea my rent is $185 a month, its crazy cheap out here. That’s with getting about 180,000 visitors a month and growing. I’ve got a sex book which should be out by end of month ideally. That will have a broader reach then my Tinder book and I’m guessing will get me another $1,500 putting me at $2,500 a month from RLD. With my traffic constantly growing and three ebooks on the way by this time year I’m aiming for $4,000 to $5,000 a month from RLD.

    Blogging is one of the worst ways to make serious money but it is possible. Because the barrier for entry is so low, most guys won’t make any money at all. The top 1% of blogs like mine will make some money but not enough to live in a western country. Its only the top .01% of blogs that make serious money. Chris from GLL does 30 to 40k per month and I’ve heard Victor Pride from B&D makes over $50k per month. To get in the top .01% you need traffic number over 500,000. To get to those $30k plus months you also need to leverage that traffic to other related ventures, Victor has BADNET and Chris has Happy Hippo. Even as a top .01% blog the limit on just ebooks and affiliate commissions is proabably about $10k/month. So to answer your question I think serious money is possible but its very rare. Blogging is definitely not the fastest way or best way to earn big money and is only possible for an extremely select group of guys. Most of those how to get rich blogging books/seminars are garbage written by garbage people just like the almost everything else in the self help industry.

    For me RLD is a labor of love. This is the blog I wish I had when I was 20 and I love helping young guys. Thats why you don’t see garbage products or spammy emails here. The other upside to blogging is that its passive income, I wake up to money. I also bankrolled a ton of cash before I left Canada and have two other businesses so life is good. I also answered your other questions under 20 training mistakes.

  3. Thanks again Will. That´s what I always thought about blogging: A cool way to express yourself and do what you love but hard to monetize in most cases because every chode can do it and teach people about stuff they dont know anything about themselves. I am guilty of the same thing: Some time ago I just wanted to try to write an kindle ebook. I chose a topic I knew a little about (but no expert), wrote 20 pages in Word, gave it to a fiverr guy who would format it for, had another fiverr guy design a cool cover, bought some 5-star-reviews (I know it was not fair play…) and still make some bucks passive with that. But that is not how I want to live.

    Either I want to follow my love and make enough money to live or I do something I dont really love but makes me considerably more money to silence my conscience

    Lucky for you that you can do something you like and still make decent money with it.

    Cant wait for your sex ebook!!

  4. Agreed most advice is written by non-experts, even more so than blogging is the paid content ie. Maxim magazine. Dating advice written by married nerdy journalists. Thanks for the support brother, the book should be out soon.

  5. No doubt about it your honest and actual I feel it in the article. Thanks will. I see I was doing everything a little left field. Using the money I was making to support the lifestyle I was headed for from a small scale to another height. I wasn’t saving while others were spending.tables turn now I’m ok with doing so
    “the first shall be last”

  6. Phew! Some time ago i was seriously considering purchasing, ‘The Secret’ lol.

    This article couldn’t be more true. Success comes from hard work put into your goal over a longer period of time (at least a few months and usually way longer) while having to resist the powerful and ever-present forces of mediocrity dragging you down.

    I have to confess that your blog has been life changing for me Will. Before i came across it early this year, i was seriously depressed and hated my life even though i’m only 19. I now realize i have a lot of opportunities available and the ability to do things right before its too late.

    Now i’m no longer depressed and have a better perspective on life but i am extremely restless and frustrated at my lack of money/pathetic financial circumstances. Now your advice to master copywriting makes a lot more sense as back then i didn’t even know what the hell it was.

    Perhaps all i need to add to my obsession with money is courage and execution in quite literally starting with the baby step of freelancing and selling one of several skills people need (Mastery of skillsets as well of course). After all, we can’t all blog like you and Victor Pride.

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