In the men’s self improvement movement you here a lot of about detachment and outcome independence, especially when it comes to things like picking up women. And don’t get me wrong, outcome independence can be a useful tool, but I see a lot of guys talking too much about detachment.
The truth is, unless you’re an enlightened being, you’re not detached, you seek pleasure and avoid pain. The best you can hope for is to be less attached, but the key is to know when to be outcome dependent and when not to be.
Here’s how to know what card to play and when: