Be A Victor Of Circumstances

We live in a victim culture and it’s killing us.

All you have to do is hop online or log onto your social media to watch people compete in the underprivileged Olympics.

The truth is, now is the best time to be alive in history, it’s never been easier, especially if you’re born in a western country.

You have the greatest equalizer in the internet. Everything you need to know to succeed is available online.

You can build a business without having to leave your bedroom.

Our ancestors, we’re subsistence level farmers and feudal serfs with no healthcare and no medical technology.

The black plague wiped out a third of Europe.

Now that’s not to say bad things don’t happen today.

But when I hear about people complaining about microaggressions it makes me sick.

I was born a bastard.

My father left us when I was born.

My grandfather disowned me because my mother had me out of wedlock.

I grew up poor.

Until I was 10 we had a rotary telephone and a black and white TV.

I’ll tell you though. I never thought of myself as a victim.

I was a happy kid. I was well loved and my mom gave me all the food, clothes that I needed.

I’m grateful to be alive and I’m grateful for what I had.

And I learned early on that I had to earn the things I wanted.

And so I never expected them to be given to me.

You can’t win when you think of yourself as a victim.

All you do is hurt yourself by tearing open old wounds.

All you do is allow the person that hurt you in the past to hurt you again in the present.

When you see yourself as a victim, the person that hurt you is still winning.

The truth is success is the best revenge.

And you can’t be successful when you think of yourself as a victim.

Why? Because bad things happen to victims.

Bad things happen to victims, that’s the definition of being a victim.

So don’t be a victim of circumstances.

Instead be a victor of circumstances.

And have the bad things that happened to you in the past be lessons to learn from.

And have the bad things that happen in the future be obstacles for you to overcome.

Be a victor of circumstances and take control of your destiny.

  1. “Success is the best revenge”

    This is so true. By becoming the greatest version of yourself, you can show anyone in the past that they made a mistake when they mistreated you.

    Keep up the good work!

  2. Something that hit me pretty hard here was that you have to earn what you want, and don’t expect it to be given to you.

    I’ve always given that line lip service, but when think about my actions, and when I’ve been disappointed at the outcome of things, it’s because I’m – literally – expecting it to all be given to me.

    I was raised the opposite of you. Two parents, loving grand parents, wealthy family. Eventually my dad would lose his business, our money, and my mother, but none of that would happen until I was already 16. By then I was spoiled. It’s taken me years of work to just be a decent person with a solid work ethic.

    And even still I realize I expect things to be given to me.

    I’m certain, though, that if I can shift that perspective when it pops up, I can change my whole life and become exponentially better.

  3. That’s it exactly. That’s a super important step realizing that and working on it will make massive changes for you, congrats on doing that and doing the work on yourself.

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