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How To Transmute Your Sexual Energy: Ejaculation, Energy, Tantra, NO FAP, NO PMO, Sex, Levels, Expectations

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Sexual energy is the energy of life. Our primary purpose, as designed by our creator is to replicate. The energy in your ejaculation is the most powerful, concentrated energy you have for that very reason. One ejaculation has literally 200 – 500 million sperm, enough to father an entire continent.

Your sexual energy is the essence of your lifeforce, or chi or whatever word you want to call it.If you don’t believe me, try jerking off 3 times in a day and then going to the gym and trying to break your personal best on the bench press – I bet you won’t even be able to lift 80% of your max.

How To Transmute Your Sexual Energy

The Problem With Ejaculation

Think of your energy like a car battery, when you ejaculate all the time you’re constantly draining that car battery. When you’re young, you can get away with this, but the older you get the more every ejaculation takes it’s toll.

Ejaculation is problem of many levels, not only does it drain your energy, but it destroys your mood. The height of sexual pleasure comes with a major boost in your key neurotransmitters: dopamine, serotonin, GABA levels are all elevated and reach a peak in orgasm. It’s why ejaculation is so addictive, you want that high, the problem is the second after you cum, those levels crash.

Some guys feel relaxed after ejaculation, but many guys, myself included (if I ejaculate too frequently) get post orgasmic depression. If I ejaculate after a month of restraint, it’s barely noticeable, but ejaculating every day like I used to is a mood destroyer.

Frequent ejaculation is the best way to destroy your mood and energy. Not only that, ejaculation causes the Coolidge Effect, which in layman’s terms translates to getting bored of girls. Every player knows that the more girls you fuck, the faster you start to get bored of a new girl, sometimes only wanting to fuck her once.

Getting a lot of girls sounds cool, and for the first year or two it’s a fun time, but casual sex gets boring real fast. Not to mention the ethics of fucking a girl once and never calling her again doesn’t make you feel that great about yourself when you know you’re hurting someone’s feelings.

I remember my wake up call very clearly. I used to spend all day selling clients and all night selling and chasing down girls. I spent all my free time getting laid and all of the next morning being at work being exhausted.

I remember leaving a girls house at 2 AM on a weeknight knowing I had to be up at 6 AM the next day for a job I hated. My cell phone battery died and there we’re no cabs running, so I had to wait outside, in the minus 30 degree Canadian winter to get on the vomit comet bus with a bunch of drunk, degenerate kids for an hour ride bus trip home. Bleary eyed and exhausted, all I wanted was to be back home in my own bed.

It was then I knew I had to make a change. All the time I spent chasing girls only amounted to be exhausted and depressed from all the loss. Energy I could have been using to build a business so that I wouldn’t have to go into a job I hated every day.

The Transmutation Solution

The key to solving the ejaculation problem is being able to transmute or redirect your sexual energy. From raising your energy levels to increasing your mood to increasing your focus in business, ejaculating as infrequently as possible is the absolute best thing you can do.

If non-ejaculation was a pill it would be the most profitable pill on the planet. Not just that, but if you have an interest in greatness, in building something beyond yourself, transmuting your energy into your work is essential.

The automobile, the electric bulb, the refrigerator and the smartphone are just a few examples of sexual energy transmuted into success. We’d still be living in darkness if Thomas Edison had been staying out until 2 AM trying to chase down 6’s in the club. And you wouldn’t be reading this because the internet wouldn’t exist.

Unfortunately, most guys can’t get it together, if they’re not chasing down girls, they’re wasting they’re energy in the basement ejaculating to pixels while the wife is upstairs sleeping. The result is that most guys don’t make it past mediocrity.

Napoleon Hill devotes an entire chapter in his excellent book Think And Grow Rich and explains the phenomenon this way:

“This orgy of indulgence may account for the shortage of great leaders. No man can avail himself of the forces of his creative imagination, while dissipating them.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

If that’s not enough motivation, think of it from the perspective of a playboy. If you can’t control your dick, some girl will always be dragging around by it. When you can, you’re able to dictate terms and cut off a bad date, instead of having to endure some girl being disrepectful in the hopes of getting laid.

If you still don’t believe me, you can take it from Victor Pride on how he harnessed his energy into building his business.

What You’ll Notice

Within a week of no ejaculation you’ll notice at least a 10% boost in mood and energy. After 2 months that will only increase. And after 8 months, which is my no PMO personal best, the impact is massive:

  • Tons of energy
  • Mood through the roof
  • Cyclops laser beam eye contact
  • Stable, calm emotions
  • Much deeper ability to bond with your girl, especially during sex
  • No dopamine crash/Coolidge effect after sex
  • Massive increase in focus on your business and personal goals
  • Better workouts and beating your personal bests
  • Pride in having control over your dick in a land of weak willed men

Levels Of Ejaculation

With everything said about the positive results of no ejaculation, controlling your sexual energy is not easy. And there are levels to it. And like all things, you don’t need to go straight into the deep end of the pool, you can just aim to do better, at least to start.

These are the levels:

  • Indescriminate ejaculation
  • Awareness that ejaculation drains your energy
  • Ejaculating twice per week
  • Ejaculating once a week
  • Ejaculating once per month
  • Not ejaculating at all
  • Recirculating your energy into tantric/karezza style bonding sex with your woman
  • Using your extra energy to succeed in the gym and in your mission

Aim to do the best you can, get used to the plateau and then move on to the next one. You also might want to look to the NO FAP communities for strategies, tactics and encouragement.

You might have blue balls your first week or so but that will go away. You’ll recognize that your constant sexual hunger was from your addiction to ejaculation. And when you quit ejaculation, outside of some moments of really strong desire, you’ll actually feel a lot calmer.

Porn

When it comes to sexual transmutation, ejaculation is the major factor, but porn also has a big impact on your energy levels, mood and focus. The best resource on researching the detrimental effects of porn is the site: your brain on porn.

The major problem with porn is that it downregulates your dopamine receptors. For some guys who struggle with porn addiction, this leads to them not being able to get excited enough with a woman that they can’t get hard. For other guys, they can still get hard, but sex with a real woman isn’t as thrilling as having 8 tabs of porn open.

Much like ejaculation, the ideal amount of porn to watch is none. With that said, we live in the age of temptation, so again it’s about levels. If you can quit porn entirely, that’s terrific. But if you can’t, match your porn consumption to ejaculation frequency. Let’s say you got ejaculation down to once a week as a reward for a hard week’s work, then keep your porn watching to your ejaculation day.

Lastly, if you are going to watch porn when you ejaculate, aim to stick to POV porn, where you’re picturing yourself in the action. As opposed to watching another guy bang a girl or all the other kinds of crazy stuff out there. At least that way you’re not putting yourself as the observer and disconnecting from the act of sex.

Energy Work

Outside of just using pure willpower, you also have the option to learn how to injaculate and move that energy around your body. This isn’t some mystical, hippy stuff, it actually works in real life, I know this for a fact because I can do it. Ejaculation and orgasm are too different things, and it’s the orgasm that kills your energy.

I can’t do it with a girl, because the stimulation at the point of no return is too intense. But I can have multiple dry orgasms, and transmute that sexual energy up my spine, into my kidneys and into my heart chakra. To see exactly how to do that, check out my article on how to have intense, multiple orgasms.

With all that said, I’ve also experimented with pure no PMO, and that’s a more powerful energy than dry, recirculated orgasms. I still do tantric masturbation as one of my rewards, but pure no PMO is ideal. Also if you’re already No FAP and No PMO, I’d advise you NOT to try tantric masturbation, because it will be very easy to slip back into your old porn habits, and for at least the first few months you’ll end up accidentally ejaculating on your path to mastery.

Sex

As you might have figured out, reducing or eliminating ejaculation is going to change the way you have sex. It’s not that having lots of casual sex with lots is girls is morally wrong, in fact I wrote the book on getting laid,  but we’re just talking about higher levels of consciousness here.

And believe me, if I hadn’t experienced it first hand, I would have thought it was bullshit. But the absolute best kind of sex you can have is slow, heart centered bonding, non-ejaculatory, Karezza/Tantric style sex.

Again, I can’t have multiple dry orgasms with a girl, but when I go really slow I can create insanely happy, bliss states with a girl I care about. And you can consciously move your energy up from your lower chakras (your pelvis and prostate), into higher chakras like your kidneys and heart. And I’m telling you, you only have to experience this once to see it as the truth. And the longer you’ve gone without ejaculating, the more powerful the experience.

This is coming from a guy who has every type of kinky sex with a girl, and those experiences don’t even come close to slow bonding sex with a girl you love. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve slipped up more than a few times in that last year and had sloppy, drunk casual sex and ejaculated. But just like getting drunken late night McDonald’s, you enjoy it at the time, but the second it’s over you regret it.

Knowing that you shouldn’t ejaculate changes your perspective on sex. I can tell you, outside of some occasional moments of weakness, chasing down a girl I don’t have strong feelings for, to have condom sex and no ejaculate doesn’t hold much appeal anymore.

Unfortunately, finding a girl you care about doesn’t happen overnight. When you’ve maxed out your sexual market value, getting laid can be relatively easy. But finding a girl you care about means going on a lot of dates, putting in the time and playing the numbers game.

What that means is you’re going to go through periods where you either don’t have a girl you care about, and some of those girls might be the wild, party girl type who’s not into slow bonding, tantric stuff.

Depending on where you are in your transmutation progress, how busy you are, whether you’re doing a celibacy reboot and how your situation is with girls, you’re going to have to adjust your program accordingly.

Here are your options from least ideal to most ideal:

  • Tantric masturbation and sex and ejaculation twice per week
  • Tantric masturbation and sex and ejaculation once per week
  • No PMO except for sex and ejaculation twice per week
  • No PMO except for sex and ejaculation once per week
  • Tantric masturbation and celibacy
  • Tantric masturbation and tantric/karezza sex with a high quality MLTR
  • No PMO and tantric/karezza sex with a high quality girlfriend who you love and who loves you

One thing to note, if you’re worried about ejaculating with a new girl, you can always explain to her that you’re trying to feel sex on a deeper, more bonding level, and that you want to go slow. You can even say you want to wait a few dates to get to know her. Your typical party girl might not be interested in this, but many girls will be happy to go slow with you.

Lastly make sure to check out Reuniting.info, it’s the ultimate resource on higher consciousness sex. This is especially important to check out if you have a girlfriend or wife, and may very well save your relationship from the Coolidge effect.

For any type of long term relationship, it’s a must for me to meet a girl who’s on the same page sexually, otherwise I know, with mathematical precision that I’ll end up losing interest in sex within 3 months to 6 months at the most, and eventually she’ll lose interest as well. I would guess at least half of all breakups/divorces begin when people get bored of having sex with each other.

With that said, no PMO and no sex will be a lonely period. Whenever I do a no PMO run I’m always having sex. The key is to have a good girl, ideally a girlfriend. Not only do your affection needs get met, but you massively increase your ability to pair-bond, and you’re able to recirculate all that latent sexual energy.

My Experience

My experience with ejaculation control started at 20 when I first read Mantak Chia’s classic book The Multi Orgasmic Man. I didn’t get serious however until my late 20’s when I mastered dry orgasms. At that point I realized ejaculation was becoming a major energy drain and I had to work on solving the problem. With that said I was still chasing girls and ejaculating with them.

By my early 30’s I’d mastered the energy management. I’d still make mistakes and ejaculate but I developed a lot better control. I also started to get deeper into Tantric and Karezza style sex and started having amazing, mindblowing deep bonding sex.

In my final year of sales I needed a ton of energy, not only was I selling full time at a demanding corporate job, but I was working on RLD in every free moment outside of that. In order to get the energy I needed, I went 8 months no PMO, while having deep bonding sex one to three times a week.

Without a doubt, it was the most focused, positive and high energy period I’ve had in the last decade and a half. Not to mention, going that long without ejaculating made deep bonding sex insanely good.

When I didn’t have a girl I cared about, I’d occasionally slip back into bad patterns, but I made the best of it and wrote how to get laid on tinder during one of my relapses. My last major binge was when I first moved to Thailand, but by the end of the month I was struggling to get out of bed, and it became very clear that binging was no longer an option.

At that moment I started to really lose interest in just pure casual sex. Instead of having to restrain myself like before, it just no longer became appealing.

It still happens from time to time after a night out drinking, but I don’t binge like I used too. When I wake up drunk, sluggish and with a girl in my bed that I want out of my room so I can start my day, that’s enough of a reminder.

My mind has truly moved beyond low consciousness sex. I struggle more with junk food than I do with junk sex. When I find a girl I care about, I can have amazing sex. When I don’t, I settle for slow/mid speed semi-bonding sex with a girl I like.

If I’m working on a major project for a month or so, and don’t have anyone special, I’ll usually go celibate and alternate between tantric masturbation and a no PMO reboot. Ironically I wrote how to fuck women properly during one of those reboots.

Over the next 5 years I’d like to get to a point where I’m either having deep bonding Karezza sex with a girl I care about or pure no PMO/no FAP in between periods of not having a quality woman.  But we’ll see how that goes, I have tons of personal development projects I’m working on and I plan on just letting this one play out organically.

I still can’t do multiple orgasms during sex, but I can do energy recirculation and create incredible bliss states, which is is good enough. Maybe if I found a girl who was hardcore into tantra I might try to master energy recirculating orgasms during sex, but it’s not a big deal, just being able to move sexual energy into the heart chakra is amazing.

Conclusion

Depending on your progress, this might be a lot to take in at once or maybe you’re not sure if it’s for you. All I can ask is this, experiment with it on your own. If someone told me at 20 that not ejaculating was the key to high energy and feeling great, I wouldn’t have believed them, or I wouldn’t have thought it was worth it. At 35 I can say 100% that it’s worth it, and ejaculation management and sexual transmutation is an absolutely crucial part of your personal development.

If you’re not ready to give up casual sex and ejaculation completely, maybe just focus on doing it less and transmuting your sexual energy more, that’s what I did.

Lastly I recognize that there is a good chance you found my site through one of my articles on dating or having sex, as the bulk of my traffic comes from those avenues. I still stand by those products, if that’s what you’re looking for. If you’re young and just getting in the game, running around picking up girls for a few years can be really fun.

But as you get older and evolve, I want you to know there are better options. That’s why I’ve made a conscious effort over the last few years to direct your energy to higher channels, and will continue to in the future.

The key is not to suppress/shame your sexual instincts from the outside but to use your awareness on what really makes you happy and gently allow change to happen from the inside.

Your sexual energy is a wild beast, so don’t get upset if you can’t control it right away. Focus on gentle change taking baby steps up the ladder, and use the better feelings and results in your business that you generate as further motivation to stay moving forward. I promise you, you won’t regret it.


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11 Comments

  1. Brian
    November 16, 2017 at 5:33 am

    This is probably one of the best articles you have written so far, because young men (or any men) needs to learn how to learn how to have dick control, and I was one of them.

    When I was 16, I got addicted to porn for a while and it’s quite saddening because it made me lost self-confidence, ability to talk to women or approach them, and lose alot of energy that should be used to building my own money machine.

    I’m a virgin still because I want to get my logistics and money priorities first, yet my hormones is what sometimes stopping from working on them. I remember when you told me that late 20s and early 30s guys are still virgins and it’s never too late, and told me to focus on getting my own car and place and get my IT Certification as well.

    Well, I’m almost finish studying for my Cisco CCNA test later and I’m finish my goals of gaining 20lbs of muscle this year. But I digress, All of this progress is because I didn’t waste my lifeforce over some damn pixels in the internet. I’m Week 2 of No PMO, so I’m starting, but gaining some energy now.

    So, this article will definitely help me save my sexual energy and put it in great use of getting Logistics down and Income goals, before wanting to get laid.

    Keep up the great work, Will. You’re doing God’s work for men.

  2. November 18, 2017 at 10:12 am

    Good stuff Brian, glad you found it useful, God bless my man.

  3. Alan
    November 19, 2017 at 11:35 pm

    Absolutely the best article I’ve ever read on this subject. It should be required reading for men of all ages. You connect the dots on a lot of subjects like morality, maturity, understanding male biology and make sense of it all. As the previous poster noted, you’re doing God’s work for men. We need this.

  4. November 20, 2017 at 6:59 am

    THE BEST ARTICLE I’VE SEEN IN 2017.

  5. November 25, 2017 at 9:59 am

    Thank you Tomas, really appreciate it

  6. November 25, 2017 at 10:00 am

    Thank you Alan, that’s extremely kind, I really appreciate it man.

  7. C
    November 26, 2017 at 12:43 am

    Hi Will,

    Thank you so much for your RLD site and all the articles! It is so helpful getting my life in order, especially when it comes to girls and dating.

    This may not be directly related to this article but I was wondering if you can help brother out. I started seeing this girl a few weeks ago. I took her to bed on the first date and when I texted her the next day she responded enthusiastically and then later initiated a second text conversation. I scheduled the next date at my place and she texted me quite heavily in between dates (which I scheduled to be about 2 per week). She texted questions like “what’s your astrology sign” and “Can I be corny with you for a minute? I can’t wait to see you on Sunday” and “I’m so stressed at work, gonna need a warm bubble bath later” and “I can’t pronounce your name, so I’ll probably just call you babe” She also sent selfies, even a video of her dancing in dance class. I really like her, though the texts were overwhelming me, so when she asked if she can text me a lot when she gets bored, I said “I love when you text but it can get overwhelming for me sometimes, maybe finding a happy medium is best.” She was ok with that.

    I saw her the third time at her place and stayed over night. We made love twice and once more in the morning. Everything was dandy when I left her place in the morning, till later that evening I realized she never initiated a text like she always did. I shot her a text that night and we texted a bit. The next day: nothing. The day after I text her to meet up again and I she responded “I lost my apt” I said let me know if there’s anything I can do to help and she said she needs to wrap her head around everything. The next day she said “maybe Friday” I persisted with “I can do after 7, let me know what time is best” she said “I might need to go home and relax after a long day.” I said “if you need a break this weekend from all that is going on let me know, I’m here for you” she said “thanks babe”. That text was more than a week ago and I’ve heard nothing since. (I never found out what is going on with her apartment)

    Has this plane taken off or do I still have a chance? I don’t want to come off as desperate but don’t want to lose her either. What do you suggest, Will?

    Thank you so much, brother!
    C

  8. December 2, 2017 at 9:28 am

    Sounds like the plane has taken off, which is all good, just part of the game. If you want you can send a final message asking her to meet up, if she flakes just get rid of her number.

  9. Robert
    December 5, 2017 at 4:06 am

    Why do you leave women you like and you have amazing sex with in the first place?

  10. December 9, 2017 at 9:37 am

    Good question Robert, usually its because there are other factors that make us incompatible, also I left a few women when I moved from Toronto to Thailand

  11. Robert
    December 10, 2017 at 8:51 pm

    It’s because most people who do karezza style sex, do so to bond very deeply, so that the relationship gets better and they don’t have to break up because of incompatible factors. you will never find a person you like 100%

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