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How To Get Laid On The First Date: A Step By Step Guide From Meeting To Closing

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In this article I’ll show you exactly how to get laid on the first date from how to greet her to how to take off her pants: every step is covered in meticulous detail. These tactics have been refined to a science over the last decade and a half and I promise you guys, this shit is for real.

This is an excerpt from my new book which I’ve expanded on here because I wanted this information out there for free. The first date is a crucial aspect of your sex life and I want you guys to have all the tools you need. Also, the tactics outlined here like staying in rapport and the question/vibe loop are applicable at all times.

As far as screening a girl for being DTF prior to the date I will do this online because I can easily a lot of prospects and can afford to burn leads. I use a shirtless profile and aggressive sexual screening and will invite girls directly to my apartment so I’ll only end up on a first date with girls who are already DTF but aren’t comfortable enough to meet at my place.

If I’ve met the girl from day game I won’t do heavy sexual screening before the date because of the time invested to meet them, meeting girls on foot is much less efficient than online. Also the girls I meet during the day are usually hotter than the ones online so they’re more valuable to me.

It’s up to you if you want to screen a girl before the date, your odds of getting a first date lay will go up but your odds of getting her to meet up will go down. I would say if you have high sexual market value and a ton of prospects it’s a good idea to sexually screen before the date, if you have fewer options you should probably ease up on the screening and aim to convert the girl on the date but it’s a judgement call on your part.

So, to get started you need to get your mind right and assume the close but at the same time don’t be too attached to it because that neediness will show through. Since you’re assuming you’re going to have sex that day, the first thing you need to do is your sex preparation.

HOW TO GET LAID ON THE FIRST DATE

 

Sex Prep

If there’s a good chance you’re going to be having sex with a new girl there are a couple of things you should do before you meet up with her. You want to make sure you’ve eaten a balanced meal at least three hours before the date, anything closer will fuck up your stamina. You should also avoid caffeine because it stimulates your nervous system, making it harder to get an erection, especially if you’re already nervous.

A quarter tab of Cialis, with a doctor’s prescription of course, is a great insurance policy and can make things more fun. A low dose is still effective and won’t give you a headache like higher doses. If you have time you want to make sure you can shit, shower and shave. When shaving make sure your pubic area and nose hairs are cleanly trimmed as well.

If you’re going to shit in your place do it no later than an hour before the date so your washroom has time to air out. Every single girl will use your washroom within the first 15 minutes of getting back to your place. If you’re in a pinch you can use the washroom in your building’s gym.

Instead of using booze to relax, which will fuck up your sex cardio, Phenibut is a great alternative to take the edge off and will make sex feel much more intense. Phenibut and a quarter tab of Cialis will make you a beast.

Your Frame For The Date

You want to come across as relaxed, charming, confident, polite and most importantly, normal. She wants to be relieved you’re not a creepshow so she can feel comfortable enough to fuck you.

Your Clothes For The Date

By the time she shows up you should be freshly showered, groomed and in nice clean clothes. As with anything else in life, first impressions mean everything. If you have a nice body, you should wear a tight t-shirt or sweater. Check out my fashion guide here for more ideas.

I usually wear sweatpants at home, but that’s not a good first impression, so at least put on some nice jeans. If the girl is tall I will wear my boots, which give me an extra inch and a half. For you shorter guys I would suggest the same thing. One thing you should avoid if you can is wearing socks. There is no graceful way to take your socks off and you want your transition to sex to be as smooth as possible.

Setting Up

The first thing you need to do as far as setting up goes is make sure that your place is clean, especially your bathroom. It’s not that she won’t fuck you if your bathroom is dirty, but it’s just not a good look. You should also have condoms within arm’s reach of your bed and a bottle of wine in the fridge in case she needs a drink to loosen up.

Aim to get to the venue on time but don’t worry about her getting there before you because she’ll be at least five minutes late, usually 10. This gives you enough time to get your drink and find a comfortable table away from other humans that faces the door. You also want to adjust the table and chairs so you can easily slip out and give her a hug so that her first impression of you is not you awkwardly struggling to stand up.

On a coffee date, if you have a rare unicorn who gets there on time you can buy her a coffee or whatever she wants. For the average girl who shows up late, let her get up and get her own drink while you message other girls on Tinder. Definitely do not go back, wait in line and pay again for a girl who showed up late.

I always try to avoid alcohol dates but I will go to a bar if the girl insists. In that situation, what she’s saying when she insists is that she won’t be able to go through with having sex with you without some booze in her.

Coffee dates are a better setup than drink dates for a few reasons. First, the price. Coffee dates will cost you about $5, while booze is $30 at the minimum. If you’re a serious player those costs add up. Also, after a couple drinks, your erection strength goes down and so does your cardio, especially if you’ve been drinking beer, which means you won’t be able to put on a peak performance. From just two or three drinks my sex cardio is down to about 80 percent.

Greet, Touch And Compliment

The first thing you want to do when a girl walks in is stand up, tell her it’s nice to meet her and give her a hug. Once she’s settled in I always make sure to pay her a compliment on her looks. This will immediately put her at ease, all women are insecure about their looks. This also sets the tone for sex happening by showing her that you’re sexually attracted. Ideally she’ll compliment you back but it’s no problem if she doesn’t. If she didn’t like your look then she wouldn’t be there.

As you’re releasing the hug, gently usher her into her seat. I’ll usually put my hand on her elbow or lower back and say: “have a seat,” not in a commanding way but in a friendly, polite way. Sometimes I’ll pull out her chair if I can reach. This is how you lead with polite dominance.

Remember, you’re a sexual salesman so treat her as if she was your client in business. That means you’re on your good behavior. Forget this “being an asshole” routine that many pickup artists follow, it will work against you. What you’re selling is polite confidence, sex appeal and that you’re a winner. Everyone wants to do business with a winner.

Conversation Ratio

At the start you’ll usually need to do most of the talking, or at least most of the leading of the conversation. It will probably be about 80/20 your way, but you should be able to get it down to 50/50 within a few minutes. The easiest way to make a girl feel  comfortable is to get her engaged and talking about herself. You do that by asking her questions.

Question/Vibe Loop

To get a woman feeling comfortable, I start asking her questions. I use a ton of questions, there is no topic girls like more than talking about themselves. I try to do as little talking as possible. Talking about herself and having you respond positively with insightful questions makes her feel that she’s really connecting with you.

Some example questions I’ll ask are: “Where did you go to school?”, “What do you do for work?”, “Whereabouts do you live?”, “Did you grow up in the city?” No segues are needed for these questions. When you watch a lot of the best comedians they don’t use segues either because they just become engaged with whatever topic is at hand

Rapport

When you’re talking to a woman you always want to be in rapport with her. Your goal should be to never break rapport or outright contradict what she says. Even light teasing is still part of rapport. A tease is not a “neg,”a tease should be done playfully and in the spirit of fun.

Sex is the ultimate rapport, so you should start building up to that from the second you meet her. You almost always want to be in agreement with what she’s saying. If she says: “I can’t believe the streetcar was so crowded on the way over here, it’s so annoying,” you should answer with something like, “Ya I bet, that sounds really annoying.”

If she says she just finished her degree and is so excited about her new job you want to say something like: “That’s awesome, that sounds like a really exciting field.” You want to empathize and filter back whatever emotion she’s projecting to you.

Being in rapport doesn’t mean you should be passive, though. You should always be leading the action and if a girl starts on a negative topic you need to steer her back to positive things. Let’s say a girl is getting angry because she had to wait 30 minutes for the bus I’ll say: “That sucks you had to wait so long. Hey, I forgot to ask, how was that art exhibit you went to this weekend?”

Once the topic has been covered or you’re stalling out, just ask her another question. Let’s say you’ve been talking about what she’s taking in school for 10 minutes and you’re stalling out. You can ask her what she likes to do for fun or what kind of music she listens to.

Just repeat the question and vibe loop until she asks about you. When (or if) she asks about you, you should have a couple of cool, normal hobbies you do. I use the gym and hot yoga. Make sure your hobbies are relatable to her. If she’s intelligent I’ll talk about the books I read, if she’s dumb I’ll talk about partying.

You can talk about yourself for a bit but you always want to flip it back to her. People feel most comfortable when they have an attentive audience. I learned this in my sales training. Clients don’t want to hear about you, they want to talk about themselves and for you to actively listen.

I usually don’t bother with sex talk, if I’ve met the girl online, sex is already assumed from my hardcore screening so my goal is just to make her feel comfortable fucking me. If it’s a girl who hasn’t been screened, talking about sex can make her uncomfortable.

If you want to put sex on the table verbally you can bring it up casually, if she’s cool with it you can continue but if she gets uncomfortable – change topics. Also, don’t think just because she’s uncomfortable with sex talk doesn’t mean she won’t fuck, a lot of girls are just shy. At the end of the day it’s a judgement call on your part but not necessary at all.

Asking Her To Leave

This is where the rubber meets the road. There is no perfect time to ask her home with you, your best bet is to ask her to leave when you think she feels comfortable. It’s also a good idea to wait until she’s finished her drink. This can be anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour depending on how relaxed she is.

Remember the point of the date is to prove you’re a cool, sexy normal guy that she can feel safe going home with. The money line is: “you wanna get outta here?”, although this is technically a question, you should deliver it as a statement.

That means you deliver it with a neutral, casual tone as opposed to an upwards inflection like you normally would with a question. When you say it like this you’re implying that it’s already been decided that she’s coming over and asking her is just a formality, this means she’ll have to break rapport with you to say no.

This is a very important distinction, if you ask her if she wants to come over it makes it much easier for her to say no because your question gives her permission to say no. Also it’s very important to hold eye contact the entire time, if she sees you look down or away it shows weakness and will make it easier for her to say no or question her decision.

Many times she’ll hesitate for a few seconds and you’ll literally be able to see the wheels turning in her head, those seconds will feel like hours but stay strong. Keep eye contact and hold the line like Braveheart, remember you’re a closer, this is what separates the men from the boys.

If she says yes, you’re good to go, don’t even bother telling her where you’re going and just lead her back to your place. A lot of times she’ll ask you: “where are we are we going?”, the correct answer is: “my place” delivered in the same neutral, casual tone. When you deliver this statement hold the line and don’t flinch just like you did when you asked her home. Remember, you’re a closer.

As you’re leading her home, it’s really important to keep her comfortable on the way home. I’ve seen girls have complete state changes as their logical brain kicks in, where they start thinking: “I can’t believe I’m going back to this guy’s place” or “I hope he’s not a psycho.”

Keeping the conversation going strong is a good way to put her at ease. As we covered before, this is especially important for the elevator ride in your building and walking down the hallway to your door, as these are the two biggest moments where girls go through state changes.

If she says no,  the correct answer is: “no problem” delivered in the exact same tone as above because you’re a cool, cold-blooded player who is outcome independent. Even if you’re upset or angry inside those emotions should never register on your face.

If she sees you upset the chances of you getting her to come over in the future are 0%, also and more importantly is to not show weakness. You’re a man with lots of options, a man who doesn’t get upset over something so small as a girl saying no to you. At this point you can walk to her to her car or the subway, wish her well and tell her you’ll text her, this just further shows that you’re completely unaffected

Closing

Now that you’ve got her back to your place, the first thing you should do is take her coat if she has one and hang it up. I always keep an extra hanger next to my jackets for this exact reason. It’s a gentleman’s gesture and is good for retentions.

Remember she feels like she is giving something to you so the more respectful you are towards her the less buyer’s remorse she’s going to have. And, the better she feels about the experience, the more repeat business you’ll have. You should also take off your shoes and get her to take hers off as well. Now you have one less piece of clothing to take off.

In some cases, especially if she’s been pre-screened for being DTF and the vibe is already sexual, she’s going to be ready to go once she gets back to your place. In fact, you’ll see in the lay reports section of my book that I was fingerbanging one girl before we made it to the elevator.

You can tell if she’s ready to go by how relaxed she is. If she looks relaxed and turned on then you can get started right away by pushing her up against the wall and kissing her, grinding, rubbing her pussy, all that fun stuff. In situations like this you can lead her back to the bedroom or just fuck her up against the wall.

In other cases, if she’s been more reserved or she seems a bit nervous you’re going to have to take your time. Usually it should take at most an hour for her to get comfortable enough to fuck.

If you’ve got a bachelor pad I suggest not having anywhere to sit except for the bed. If you have a one bedroom or a house, just lead her straight into the bedroom. If she’s nervous she might ask you something like: “where are we going?” Just answer nonchalantly: “the bedroom.”

You don’t want to fuck her on the couch. Couch sex can be fun, but in my opinion you can’t put on a peak performance on a couch, you need the space and comfort of a bed. Since it’s your first time you want to maximize all the probabilities of putting on a good performance because beating up that pussy is the best thing you can do for client satisfaction and retention.

Once you’ve got her on the bed, try to sit close to her while resting up against the headboard. If she sits close to you she’s probably ready to go. If she sits far away, she’s going to need a bit more time. Just go back into the question and vibe loop again until she starts to open up. When she gets comfortable enough just tell her to come sit next to you.

Kiss her for a few minutes to get her comfortable before you let your hands roam. If she stops you or moves your hand at any point, just give it about five minutes and try again. Chances are though, that she’ll be ready to go at this point.

At another five minutes in you can take her shirt off and yours at the same time. If you’re inexperienced just leave the bra on or tell her to take it off so you’re not fucking around back there. Kiss her and give her close body contact for another five minutes, not only is she going to get wetter but it will also get her to release the bonding hormone oxytocin which will relax her. Even girls that are into hardcore rough sex still appreciate this kind of foreplay.

Rub her clit outside of her pants before you reach your hand inside, she should be dripping wet at this point. Rub her clit for awhile under her pants before you take them off, let her build up the desire to fuck you. The cleanest way to take a girls’ pants off is to undo any buttons or zippers then at the same time pull her pants and panties down to her mid thighs as you move away from her.

While still holding her pants and underwear, move back off the bed so you’re standing up and pull her pants away from her. Most girls will help you by wriggling a bit. As you’re sliding her pants and panties past her ankles, take her socks off too.

Once her pants are clean off, take yours off while you’re still standing up then get back into bed. If you’ve lost your hardon don’t worry about it, just go back to making out with her. Give it a few more minutes of rubbing your cock against her pussy while you make out. Then reach down next to your bed, grab the condom, slide inside and enjoy. For first time sex I almost always use missionary as my first position; it’s the best position for controlling your orgasm.

To delve deeper into how to dominate in the bedroom, checkout my sex guides to learn how to fuck her properly, eat pussy and make her squirt. Most importantly, relax and have fun, this is what it’s all about.

The Day After Text

Once you’ve fucked a girl you want to send her a text the next day telling her what a great time you had. It’s the polite thing to do and is extremely important if you want to see her again because it makes her feel she wasn’t “used” for sex. Now we know from Chapter 1 that sex is a value-equal exchange, but in her mind it’s not.

Lastly and I hate to have to bring stuff like this up, but when you send a day after text and she responds positively you’ve got an insurance policy against a false rape accusation. Also, make sure that if you do end up drinking that you cut it after two drinks max. I’ve made it a personal rule to never have sex with a drunk girl and I think you should too. You want her sober and completely accountable for her actions.


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41 Comments

  1. March 8, 2015 at 11:55 am

    Very comprehensive. I usually go on drink dates, but may give coffee dates a go, especially for girls under 21.

  2. March 8, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    Thanks Seth, for sure, give the coffee date a shot.

  3. Guido
    March 8, 2015 at 6:34 pm

    Hi Will great article! I’ve read your book too, excellent stuff.

    I was wondering how do you handle a conversation where she gives mostly short answers? Do you insist with more questions?

    I’ve always heard the advice that in interactions with girls asking too many questions is bad, because it turns the interaction into an interrogatory, and that I’m supposed to be good at story telling or turning my questions into statements. What’s your opinion on that?

  4. Anonymous
    March 8, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    Holy shit Rev, this is random but I had no idea you we’re a good looking loser up until I saw one of your posts in the approach anxiety section. That is awesome!

  5. March 8, 2015 at 10:11 pm

    Hey man, ya I found GLL when I was writing my post on day game and wanted to see how other guys stats compared to mine. Chris, Paul Janka and Krauser are pretty much the only ones who post their numbers. Love GLL its a phenomenal resource for guys.

  6. March 8, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    Hey Guido, thank you and thanks for your purchase, I really appreciate it. Usually when a girl is giving short answers its already over, your odds of closing will be about 1/600. To see exactly how to do it check out the lay on the Brazilian girl in my book. Its really just following the same game plan but I’ll drop the questions mostly and just try and get her meet up.

    As far as the advice your talking about, you need to disregard a lot of the PUA stuff, its written by internet alphas on what they theorize is the best way to get girls, my stuff is pure experience. The best way to treat a date is like a sales call because you’re a sexual salesman, that means indulge your client and make them feel good about themselves. 95% of her attraction to you will come from your looks, fitness, style and masculinity. Your goal for the date is really just to be charming, make her feel comfortable with fucking you and build on your verbals with some slight sexual tension.

    Let me know if that makes sense to you. As a customer I’d be happy to review any specific situations you need help with. Just shoot me an email at the address in the book.

  7. Guido
    March 9, 2015 at 5:55 am

    Thanks Will, it makes sense. I’m just starting out after my long-term relationship has come to an end, and I find this blog has really great content. Keep it up mate!

  8. March 9, 2015 at 8:07 am

    Thanks Guido!

  9. Anonymous
    March 9, 2015 at 9:52 am

    Yes Sir, ABC.

  10. March 10, 2015 at 7:53 pm

    Exactly

  11. Dawson
    March 11, 2015 at 11:57 pm

    Good stuff. But you never mentioned the transition between leaving and fingerbanging the girl in the elevater. There was no kiss in between?

    What I’m really asking is, do you go in for the kiss before you leave or on your bed?

  12. Dawson
    March 12, 2015 at 12:04 am

    Also, dates are only necessary when you haven’t done hardcore screening, right? Because if you did, then you would have pulled the same day or set up a meet at your place right? And why do you need a “date” for girls that you have screened on tinder? Why aren’t you just meeting up at your place?

    In what scenarios would you ever not do hardcore screening during day game? Do you just pussy out on the really hot ones, or is this mainly referring to people using basic guy game?

    I know this is a ton of questions and would be very grateful if you could clear up my confusion, thanks.

  13. March 12, 2015 at 12:11 am

    Thanks Dawson, in that lay report the girl came straight to my apartment, we started making out in the lobby before we hit the elevator. I wanted to put that in their so guys know how quick you can escalate when a girl is ready to go. I never go for the kiss in public and usually wait till she’s on my bed. But, for girls I’ve sexually screened online or when my radar tells me she’s ready to go I’ll kiss her in my hallway or living room.

  14. Stevezy
    March 30, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    “It’s the polite thing to do and is extremely important if you want to see her again because it makes her feel she wasn’t “used” for sex. ”

    not bashing your style, but personally I never send a txt first after sex? why? because if she sends one, then she’s sold and wants to see you again – so just make it happen. besides, she won’t feel like she’s just being used if after sex you just chat and hang out a bit before kicking her out and perhaps even tell her ‘hey, call me later :] ‘

  15. March 30, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    I consider it the final piece of leading and managing her experience. And logically she might know you had a great time but the next day her hamster will be in overdrive wondering if you’ll text her. If you don’t that giant wounded ego of hers might deny you access. With that said if what you’re doing isn’t broken, no need to fix it.

  16. Stevezy
    March 30, 2015 at 11:28 pm

    Likewise, dude. My style is simply to not engage. I let them chase me if you’d like to call it that. So say we had non definite plans for a Thursday because something might get in the way of our schedule and we made them on a Monday. On that Monday she will txt (reach out first) and I will then ask her to come over or out or whatever for that Thursday. Then from then on she has to initiate. There is no initiating. She will say ‘so am i still coming over tonight?’ on that Thursday, or she won’t even write anything and it will already be Friday. Either way, I didn’t check to see if she’s still coming over or whatever. Almost like I forgot.

    I literally have txts of girls where our last convo was over 2 weeks ago, and then they reengage weeks later. It’s never me checking up on them. I’m nice over txt and definitely never an asshole like the PUA’s tell you to be. My assholeness is just in not being like every other guy out there making them laugh over txt and more or less simply just finding out when they are free. But they have to reach out to me out of the blue.

    Sounds complicated, but it really isn’t. One can do this type of ‘game’ when they simply are living life in abundance and they’re not worried of losing any girl.

    It’s almost like every guy chases them right into my arms and i’m really not even doing anything.

  17. March 30, 2015 at 11:46 pm

    Nice, sounds like its working well for you man.

  18. Stevezy
    March 30, 2015 at 11:59 pm

    Yeah I mean the most i’ve gotten was 4 in a month – so nowhere in your territory ha, but also I live in a really small town (13k pop and still under my parents roof ha). Moving out very soon though and actually around a city. But yeah, currently I average one new bang about every 3 weeks. Tonight I met up with a 17 year old (i’m 26) who i’m pretty sure is a virgin – which honestly sucks. Good for gf material though I suppose. Cheers. Keep up the great posts!

  19. March 31, 2015 at 10:47 am

    That’s great, with just a few girls a month you end up having more girls in a year’s then most guys have in their lives. That’s impressive for a small town. Thanks for the support man.

  20. April 28, 2015 at 12:22 am

    The best content I’ve ever seen about casual sex. Congrats man! Could please do a review about adult friend finder website?

    Thank you,
    Rick

  21. April 28, 2015 at 7:21 am

    Thanks Rick. I might do that. I tried AFF for a month, I would say its 30% bots, 30% older women, 30% BBW and maybe 10% women I would be interested. It also has way less women in general compared to dating sites. I banged one girl but frankly it couldn’t compare to tinder or okc, especially when it was a paid service.

  22. April 28, 2015 at 3:14 pm

    Thanks for that man.
    So overall it’s a waste of time, huh?
    I’m about to buy your book instead of waste my money with sites you know? However I’m really not in the shape. I got bigger few yrs ago and I’m struggling to back on track.

  23. April 28, 2015 at 3:39 pm

    Hey Rick,

    Overall I would definitely say its a waste. With that said you should be in good shape for online, if not jacked at least lean. Women are just spoiled by the amount of options. I wouldn’t buy the book at this point. If you’re significantly overweight I would really focus on getting lean first otherwise it won’t be helpful to you. Luckily that’s something you can change once you put your mind to it.

  24. Red
    May 12, 2015 at 6:07 pm

    Hey Will, Huge fan of your blogs.

    I’ve got a question

    First off, I’ve also been reading BoyToyStory’s blogs (nice to see you guys know eachother, I like his blogs alot too), and his posts usually emphasis on fast escalation, like rubbing the pussy as soon as possible or trying to finger the girl asap to prevent last minute resistance and get her as horny as possible as quickly as possible. You mentioned lots of making out/rubbing/grinding/foreplay etc. before actually putting your hands down her pants, so it kinda contradicts what he says.

    In your experience which method is better or does it just depend on the situation with the girl your with? Fast escalation or slow, Will?

  25. May 12, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Thanks Red, ya Boytoy is great. It totally depends on the situation, if a girl is ready to go then I’ll usually escalate fast, if she needs to get warmed up then I’ll slow the pace down.

  26. Alex
    June 2, 2015 at 7:32 pm

    very good summary. I do most of it already but it got clear to me now that probably I am not polite enough which destroyed me some good opportunities in the past, both one-off and repeat biz.

    As I am almost your age I would like to know how old your girls are on average? I prefer early twenties but find them a lot harder to close fast than the older ones.

  27. June 2, 2015 at 9:29 pm

    Thanks Alex, glad to found some value though. My girls are usually 20 to 30 at the most, the early 20s girls can be if they’re less experienced but definitely worth it :)

  28. Andrew
    November 11, 2015 at 11:58 pm

    Will, Thank you sir for doing this work.
    Your style/tone is straight up. I appreciate your efforts sir. Cheers

  29. November 12, 2015 at 8:35 am

    Thank you Andrew, I appreciate your kind words.

  30. Zo
    September 28, 2016 at 4:35 am

    How do I find more of this. I wanna give an example I have I male friend that’s a compliment asshole publicly but tha bitches can’t get enough of him. Nd tha real key to attraction Nd getting anything you won’t from a bitch is holdin out on sex. Not saying no but jus being unavailable or busy. But every chick hers in contact with wants to fuck him. He has no real income car or bachelor pad. I wanna kno wtf is he telling these bitches.?

  31. September 28, 2016 at 11:18 am

    He’s prob really good looking and has game. All you can do is worry about you and max out your sexual market value and play your hand to the best of your abilities my man.

  32. Leon
    December 1, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Hi RLD, read your comments and articles on sedfast for awhile, nice to find your blog. I like your writing method, very clear, rich and instructive, already considering buying your ebook, keep it up! I also like BD’s Unchained Man style and I find that you and he share a lot of similarities, doesn’t it?

    A question regards this article: In my bedroom, I always find sitting on the edge of the bed side-by-side facing the wall when she’s not relaxed enough is awkward and uncomfortable (for vibing), is there any way to bypass it? or should I let her sit on the bed and I’m on my chair face to face with her, then come sit beside her when she’s more relaxed?

  33. December 1, 2016 at 7:52 pm

    Thanks Leon, and yes, BD is prob the only guy I would vouch for, he’s terrific – the Unchained man is the best personal development book for men, no question.

    What you can do is sit on the bed resting your back on the headboard with your legs stretched out, while giving her room to sit down, or recline a bit back. Can tell her, come here relax and pat the bed with a light smile.

  34. Matt
    January 2, 2017 at 7:05 am

    I’ve read a lot of articles on this topic and this one is probably my favorite. With that being said however, how do you keep the coversation mostly focused on her without coming off as “too interested”? Do you think women want what they can’t have to an extent? If you’re responding positively and asking more questions about her, won’t she feel like you’re just another interested guy?

  35. January 3, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    Thanks Matt. You actually want to convey that you are an interested guy, just a handsome, charming, socially intelligent, well dressed, non-needy guy. Think how George Clooney or Brad Pitt talks to a reporter, high value but humble/taking interest.

  36. Matthew
    January 18, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    Hey Will, I just found this article and I think that it’s really helpful but I would like to know if I should give this a shot with a girl that I am pretty good friends with before I move, or leave it and just stay in close contact with her. Maybe a better option though is just getting a blowjob from her instead of going all the way and if so how to I get her to want to blow me? I would like to get your thoughts on this and maybe help me out a bit. Thanks!

  37. January 20, 2017 at 3:52 pm

    I say go for it, although you’re in the friend zone so her answer will almost surely be no.

  38. Matt
    February 15, 2017 at 4:24 am

    Thanks for your responses will!

    Would you recommend asking a girl back to your place on the first date if you don’t know if she is down for sex? If she hasn’t been “sexually screened?” Also, if she turns your offer down, how long do you wait before contacting her again?

  39. February 15, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    I usually do, unless you want to run safer game (ie you think the girl has gf or more serious potential, in which case you should check out my definitive guide to dating series. If she doesn’t bite, give her a few days and ask her to hang out again within the next 2.

  40. MDR
    February 22, 2017 at 10:37 am

    Hello Will, very insightful and high quality article!

    I was wondering do you know any good material about how to engage in conversation with women? I mean something that teaches the basics.

  41. February 22, 2017 at 6:51 pm

    Thank you. Check out the women section of my site, I cover a lot of ground.

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