How To Be A Player: The 29 Laws Of The Game

If you want to learn how to be a player, the first thing you need to understand is that the game exists. And if you can’t see that or refuse to accept the rules, I promise you one thing: you’re going to get played. You might not like the rules but you need to respect them. You need to recognize that you either play or get played and you need to play by the rules if you want to succeed.

The game, just like nature, is amoral and unless you want to be celibate you have to play. What you’re playing for is sex and affection from women. That could be through multiple women or through a monogamous relationship but the rules are the same.

With that said, learning how to be a player doesn’t mean you should play with a girl’s emotions. You can be and you should be honest about what you want. Not just because it’s the right thing to do but it’s what men do, you set your terms and she can either accept them or leave. And don’t worry, most girls, deep down would rather have a piece of a real man than all of a weak man.

When you play by the rules you’ll get the most out of your relationships, avoid drama and not do anything to embarrass yourself that you’ll regret later. Not only that, but by playing by the rules you’ll make the women in your life happier, no girl wants to be with a guy that doesn’t get it.

Girls will come and go but your actions will stay with you forever, that’s why its important not to break your discipline and stay on top of your game. Here are the 29 laws you need to follow to keep your game air tight:

How To Be A Player

1) Have A Player Mindset

To learn how to be a player, the first thing you need to do is start thinking like a player. That means you need to internalize the player’s mindset down to your core. That you have confidence, an abundance mentality and an understanding that dating women is a game and you can either play or get played. You can’t sit on the sidelines unless you plan on being celibate. Internalize that girls will have sex with you casually because they have just as strong a sex drive as men do, the world didn’t reach six billion people by accident.

Having a player mindset also means not feeling guilty for having sex, you recognize sex as a value-neutral exchange, not a dirty act where you’re taking advantage of a girl. Realize that you’re living a 1% lifestyle and you need to act like it. It might feel weird at first but by the consistent external reinforcement you get from having lots of women around will become natural.

When it will really click for you is when you know that if all that pussy dried up you can go out and easily find a new girl within three days anywhere in the world. Having a player mentality also means that you respect the game and don’t hate other players. Instead of hating you recognize game and see what you can learn from other players.

2) Act The Part

Fake it till you make it, at least at first. Learning how to be a player takes time, you’re not going to change over night, but it all starts with acting the part. Act like you’re used to getting girls, dress like you’re used to getting girls, walk like you’re used to getting girls. You need to act as if and eventually the behaviors will solidify. Mick Jagger wasn’t always Mick Jagger, he used to be a skinny English prep school boy until he decided he was going to be the world’s biggest rockstar and started to act like it.

Unfortunately your age, looks and status determine a lot of your success but you want to control what you can control and maximize your hand. That means get your style right and your body in shape. Act like a confident, strong man and that’s what you’ll become.

3) Always Be Closing

That means always be closing new women. Use day game, Tinder, party game — whatever works for you. You can’t have an abundance of women without playing the numbers game. This means asking a girl home with you after a date. It means putting moves on her when she comes home with you. It means escalating sexually with her until she’s ready to fuck (never with force, always seduction) even if that takes three or four hours.

4) Always Be Ready

If you want to always be closing you need to always be looking good, smelling good and have your phone on you no matter where you’re going. You’ll never know when you’ll run into a girl who you want. I’ve picked up girls on the bus (when I used to ride it), in coffee shops and the doctor’s office just to name a few places.

A player is always on the hunt. Having your phone on you is crucial, when a girl is giving you solid eye contact you want to be able to approach at the drop of a dime. You might only get one or two good looks a week so make sure you have your phone on you to get that number.

5) Keep Your Pipeline Full

Whenever you think your pipeline is getting too full and you start to slow down that’s when your pipeline dries up. Without a strong pipeline you’re liable to do stupid things because you’re horny like texting girls you don’t like. Keeping a fresh supply will lower your neediness for any girl in particular and will keep you from drying out.

6) One Is Too Close To None

If you want to transition into a relationship with a woman who meets your criteria, go for it, you’re still in the game but recognize that it’s a different set of rules. To be a player you always need more than one woman. With one girl you’re more susceptible to neediness, putting up with drama and other bullshit. When you have an abundance of women, it means you know and she knows that you have other options. Remember, you don’t need the girl you’re with, you need the NEXT girl.

7) Put Yourself First

Be in love with yourself and the game and you’ll always be taken care of. Women love nothing more than a confident, selfish man. Girls can’t stand a weak man and once they know you’re putting them on a pedestal they will lose interest. Girls will fight you to the death for power and ownership of you, but deep down they don’t really want it, once they have it they’ll move on to another challenge.

Remember girls only love up, so keep yourself where you’re supposed to be, on top. With that said, don’t be arrogant in an annoying way. Do it in a charming way with a shit-eating grin. Combine that with affection and active listening and you have a powerful combination.

8) Be Discreet

That means keep your other women to yourself. Girls are jealous and narcissistic by nature. They have a hard enough time knowing they have to share you without you flaunting it in their face. Combine this with the fact that after seeing her for a while her friends will be telling her she “deserves” better. Don’t bring other women up unless she asks, tell her “when I’m with you, I’m only thinking about you, I don’t want to talk about anyone else”.

9) Be Honest

This means be upfront with who you are. You don’t need to bring up how many girls you’re seeing but don’t pretend to commit or string her along to keep her around. If she asks, (which she will), let her know you’re not looking for anything serious at this point but would be with the right girl. This gives you honesty as well as the potential in her head that she could be that girl, which she could be if she plays her cards right.

10) Be Good In Bed

Fuck her well every time you see her, ravage her like a strong, confident man, or make gentle love to her. This conveys two things, one the basis of your relationship is sexual and two, when you fuck her well she will keep coming back. Don’t get hung up on making her cum, some girls cum easily, some don’t. For most girls however, sex is about connection, about feeling your strength, about feeling your weight on top of her and about you enjoying yourself. Check out these guides on how to fuck her properly, eat pussy and make her squirt.

11) Protect Yourself

Easier said then done, but this is a must for any player. It’s true, condom sex is shitty but not as shitty as getting an STD.

12) Check Her

Girls will always test you, the best ones will test the least, but they will still test, it’s in their nature. They want to see what kind of man they’re dealing with and by letting her test you without checking her behavior you’ve failed. More importantly though you’ve failed yourself by not maintaining your standards.

The first time a girl does something I don’t like I tell her politely: “I don’t like when you do x behavior”, if she apologizes and stops then we’re back to normal, if she keeps at it I check her more forcefully. If she continues to do it I give her a warning that I don’t keep negative people and drama in my life so that she knows the next time she fucks up she’s getting fired. Make sure to check her the first time she does something, because you get the behavior you allow. Check her for the following every single time:

  • disrespect
  • drama
  • jealousy plotlines
  • being in a bad mood
  • withholding sex
  • questioning your terms

13) Don’t Chase Em’, Replace Em’

Lots of girls are going to leave you for someone who will get monogamous with them. Unless you want something exclusive with them, it’s important to let them go, your power comes from not needing her and from her choosing to be with you.

A lot of times girls won’t bother to text you when they meet someone, but if she does, then you can wish her well. Chances are she’ll come back once she gets bored of whatever guy committed to her too quickly, as long as everything was good with you when you guys ended it you can welcome her back with open arms when she does. When you chase after her not only do you lose that power and break your standards but she will lose interest. A good rule of thumb is to delete her number so you’re not tempted to text her. If she wants to come back, let her text you.

Cop and blow, girls come and go. Without a commitment, every time you see her might be the last time and you need to be cool with that. Recognize that eventually she will want a commitment and if you don’t give it to her she will find someone who can (even when she still wants you).

14) Actively Listen

That means take an interest in what she’s saying. Ask questions about what’s going on with her and pay attention when she’s speaking. This is part of the cost to play the game, when you’re listening you should try to maintain eye contact, nod your head at the appropriate time and give the appropriate look or response ie. “wow” or “that’s crazy” or “really”.

Remember what she said the week before and ask her about it the next time you see her. Women will want to be able to talk about their week for at least twenty minutes, let her talk. Remember to keep a girl around you need to be more than just a human dildo.

15) Make Her Come To You

By her coming to you it shows three important things; one, that you have the power, two, that she is invested in you and three, it allows you to manage the experience. That also means make her come to you on the first date, it shows she’s invested and saves you from getting flaked on after you’ve gone halfway across the city. Most girls will be happy to come to you because their places are usually messy, any girl who tests you on this consistently does not value you enough or is high maintenance and has to go. Having her come to you also saves you hassle and travel time.

16) Always Be Playing

Watch what you say and say what you mean, girls remember everything you tell them. Keep your game tight because you’re either playing the game or the game is playing you. This doesn’t mean you have to lie but it means you have to think before you speak, especially when you’re checking her, a girl will remember every negative thing you say. This also means be charming, be fun and identify with her hopes and encourage her. You want her to leave your place feeling good every time so that she’s itching to see you the next week.

17) Keep Your Game To Yourself

Being a player is an alternative lifestyle that a lot of people will have a problem with, this could be your family, your co-workers or your acquaintances. Keep quiet about how you live, especially at work when it can affect your money. It’s tempting to try to straighten out a blue pill guy but usually all you’ll get is judgement from him.

Girls will label you as an asshole or immature and guys will be jealous of your lifestyle, they’ll try to browbeat you into a scarcity mentality and locking down that special girl before she gets away.

Society, despite what you read in magazines frowns on the player lifestyle. Your family will push you to settle down. Your co-workers and employer will judge you negatively. Girls you went to school with will think you’re immature. Beta males will talk shit behind your back. Even some of your close friends who are in sexless relationships won’t want to hear about the hot 21 year old you banged on the first date last night. It’s important to remember that you are living an alternative lifestyle and its usually better to keep it to yourself.

18) Put Her On A Schedule

See her no more than once a week on a scheduled night. When you’re trying to juggling multiple girls as well as meet new ones, you want as much regularity as possible. Being a player is a part-time job and without organization you won’t have time for anything else.

The other reason for seeing her no more than once a week is to keep her from acting like your girlfriend, seeing a girl too often sends mixed messages and leads to jealousy, wanting to talk about feelings and her asking: “What do I mean to you?” or: “Where is this going?.”

Friday nights and Saturday nights are great times to schedule girls because they are prime nights. This might sound counter-intuitive at first but you want the girls who are invested in you on these nights so that you can meet new girls on weekdays. New girls who aren’t invested will be less likely to give you a prime night in their week or will be more likely to flake on a prime night when something better comes up, that’s why its ideal to schedule first dates on weekdays.

19) Keep Your Money In Your Wallet

Spend your money on what’s most important in your life, you. If you want to buy every girl you meet expensive dinners you’re going to be a broke player pretty fast. It also makes it more difficult to see if she’s into you or your money. With that said when you ask a girl out for coffee, expect to pay. It says terrible things about you if you don’t, it also allows you to lead the interaction. I think its fair that whoever asks, pays. If anything she should be invested in you before you invest in her, save the gifts and expensive dinners for your girlfriend who has proven herself.

20) Set Your Terms And Stick To Them

This means, know what you’re looking for, what behavior you’ll accept and what behavior you won’t accept. With that said you don’t want to lay out all your behavior terms at the start, just tell them to her along the way as necessary. Remember this, no matter what you say, a girl who likes you will always want a commitment and will always come at you with a question of: “What do I mean to you?”

She won’t give up on that until she’s given up on you and found another guy who will commit. Always be willing to lose a girl who doesn’t respect your terms, remember she needs to choose to be with you. Your standards are more important than any girl, be good to the game and the game will be good to you. Every girl in your life needs to know that you want her but don’t NEED her. If she thinks you need her then she won’t respect your standards, she always has to know that you are willing to end things if she doesn’t act right.

21) Manage Her Experience

To keep girls around you need to provide a great experience. That means apart from having amazing sex, let her talk about her day, ask her about relevant things in her life, cuddle with her, basically boyfriend stuff but on a smaller scale.

You want to be about 80% player, 20% boyfriend, this gives her enough emotional attachment to keep coming back but still leaves her wanting more. Be fun, positive, have good conversation, and be affectionate (in moderation). You also want to have good movies, shows, sex playlists, food, wine, tea and anything else you’re into on hand. Having shows you watch together is convenient because you can watch the next episode whenever she comes by. Make your place and your experience a happy vacation from her life and watch her stay with you.

22) Don’t Have More Than Three Girls At A Time

As far as repeat business goes, logistically and time-wise it is too difficult to juggle more than three girls consistently, even three girls is a lot to manage. If you want three girls, have two you see weekly and one bi-weekly. You can and still should be talking to and meeting up with new girls to keep that pipeline full. To keep a girl around you usually have to see her once a week, if you’re seeing two girls that’s two nights gone, plus lets say you have a first date or two and social commitments your week will be plenty busy.

23) Avoid The Phone

Talking on the phone is for relationships only, don’t confuse her.

24) Be Cool

Living the player lifestyle means you need to have your emotions in check. As far as girls go, neediness is the most effective way to destroy a girl’s attraction to you, this is the most important emotion to manage. Women don’t love weak men and neediness is weakness. You also need to realize that jealousy is a function of neediness, even if you are feeling a little jealous, this is something you can’t show to her, she will test you on it by talking about other guys.

Girls will always test you to see if she can find chinks in your armour, and if she finds one she’ ll amplify whatever behavior caused it. For example when a girl starts talking about another guy she’s seeing, she’s testing to see if you’re jealous. You can only have two responses; one, listen and offer feedback like it was any other subject or two, tell her that you’re not interested in other guys and that: “when we’re together we should focus on each other.”

Some guys like the first method, I like the second one, otherwise girls will tend to keep running jealousy plotlines on you. And besides, I’d rather listen to her talk about how great I am than some other guy.

When a girl won’t come over to your place after a date, be cool
When a girl flakes on a date, be cool
When a girl comes over the first time and won’t fuck, be cool
When a girl wants to see someone else be cool
When a girl stops texting you be cool
When a girl runs a jealousy plotline, be cool

25) Don’t Waste Time on Time-Wasters

Time-wasters are girls who text you but won’t meet up, girls who flake, girls who constantly try to re-schedule. If she cancels on the first date, chances are you won’t see her again. If you can’t get her to meet up within a week of getting her contact info chances are she will never meet up. You can test this out and some girls do come around but for time management purposes and your own sanity it’s usually best to delete their contact info and focus on hot prospects.

26) Keep It Between You And Her

That means don’t take her out with your friends unless you’re testing her for an upgrade, those are girlfriend activities. You especially want to avoid going out with her friends, it puts her in the power position, you have to work a room and she has allies to call you out on shit she wouldn’t do with just the two of you. All major drama I’ve had with casual dating has been when I’m out with her friends.

27) Embrace Rejection

If you don’t have a thick skin, you need to get one. The best way to do that is to get rejected. Keep in mind that even the best players close around 7% of women they open, and even less from online. A lot women won’t be sexually available, in a bad mood, in a hurry, or any number of things.

A lot of the time she’s not rejecting you, you just have conflicting agendas. Sometimes she is rejecting you but that doesn’t matter because that’s what this game is, being able to handle that is what separates you from every other guy. Being able to handle that is what makes you strong. You’ll never like being rejected, just recognize it as a cost of doing business that gets you one girl closer to a girl who says yes.

28) Know When To Commit

You won’t keep a quality girl in a casual relationship forever. When you feel like you have a qualified girl it’s time to start further tests. Bring her out with your friends, start seeing her more than once a week, and make sure that you’re starting to have feelings for her before you commit. This should take at least a few months, ideally longer so you can really get to know her before you jump into something. The important thing is to remember that you never have to commit, no matter what she, your friends or your family think. Commit only if and when you want to.

29) Know When To Fire Her

Firing her is the nuclear bomb in your arsenal, it’s not a card you can play twice unless you want to come in from a position of weakness with a girl that will be bitter at you. It also means she knows you’re not serious and will have a license to do the same behavior that caused you to fire her in the first place. When she sees you can’t hold to your standards she won’t respect your standards, so think it through before you fire a girl.

You also need to fire a girl when you’re not into her any more, that could even be after only seeing her a few times. In that case you can just stop texting her and she’ll get the hint. This is also what girls will do to you when they’re not into you any more.


If you’re serious about learning how to be a player you need to respect the game, and that means following the rules. When you don’t, you’ll pay for your mistakes, I promise you that. That’s not to tell you that you can’t be sweet with girls and have beautiful relationships, but you can’t be soft all the time. Every aspect of life has an element of combat to it, and dating is no exception. When you refuse to play the game, you get played. So stay true to the game and the game will stay true to you.

  1. Hey Will, gold post here. I have one concern though. My flatmate gets like 2 to 3 girls per week and I don’t think he’s talking to 100 girls per week, so there has to be something more to it don’t you think?

  2. “You’ll never like being rejected, just recognize it as a cost of doing business that gets you one girl closer to a girl who says yes.”…. that sentence alone is a motivation-enough for me! Preach-on, mane!

  3. hey Will, on step 4 you mention to smell good…what are some good colognes that you would recommend? thanks

  4. Awesome post man, love the picture pf Don Magic Juan at the top. Love seeing things that I already do and ideas I can implement into my game.

  5. Hey Will,

    I’m pretty new to this kind of thing. I gotta say, I like your approach much more than other stuff on the subject that I’ve read. Methodical, no bullshit, respectful- nice.

    I’d be interested in your advice on a few general things. Honestly, I’ve been kinda shut-down for a long time. I have a few things going for me, but right now I got some decent roadblocks, too (mostly of my own making, but that’s the past).

    So, on the plus side- I’m decent looking (I’m told). I’d like to think I’m intelligent. I’m an artist, selling and showing a bit of work, which seems to be an asset, esp with the kind of girls I like.

    On the minus side- I’ve always had terrible confidence and social anxiety. I can kinda do ok when I get past that, but how do you fix basic, instinctive shit like body language and avoiding eye contact?

    Also, how to maximise success, being a broke-as-joke-90%-of-the-time artist. Avoiding/minimising expensive meals, drinks etc, and, well, my flat isn’t gonna make Vogue Living any time soon- I had a girl come around, then go cold and leave. I’m not 100% that the flat was the deal-breaker, but I’d guess it was a factor.

    Another thing, I’m a (cigarette) smoker. I should quit, I know. But I’m wondering if I might at least minimise time-wasting if I told girls ahead of time, “hey, I smoke, if that’s a deal -breaker for you” and “my place is a bit [ahem] ‘shabby chic’ [cough]” or something. (If so, when should I say this, and how should I frame it?) Til now, I’ve just been trying to avoid any potential negatives, and hope that stuff isn’t an issue at the last minute. But when girls lose interest, its hard to know exactly what put them off. How to minimise the impacts of that stuff?

    Although, I tend to go for kinda hipster-ish, artsy girls, so being broke and smoking isn’t usually an issue with them, but I’ve been breaking type a bit.

    Anyway, thanks for wading through my comment- any advice is appreciated- keep up the good work, mate.

  6. Thanks man I appreciate your kind words.

    Ok so this is a problem most artists have is your type is generally inward driven. You have learn how to get out of your head. But that and confidence and less social anxiety really only come from doing it. You just have to feel the fear and do it anyway – exposure therapy. It’s not until after you’ve mastered it that that stuff goes away. So your real problem is that the pain of changing is greater than staying the same. I would recommend reading all my motivational articles under mind. Once you make the decision to change you have to vow to be dedicated. Say you’re going to do this no matter what – lets say just approaching 3 girls a day. Then just focus on that as your major goal for the next 3 months and just do it. Tell yourself ok I only have to talk to 3 girls then I get to go home.

    As for asking if your smoking is a deal breaker or telling her your place is shabby – absolutely not. Never say anything bad about yourself – remember this a part time job. In my younger days I would fuck girls in a 250 square apartment – never a complaint. With that said you should read my articles on quitting and my articles on organization under mind and lifestyle – that stuff is more important than girls. Girls should be priority #4 – a fun side hobby.

  7. I’m getting phone numbers like shit every day,sometimes I get two per day,problem is with closing shit…I close fewer girls,most girls would kind of playing hard to get or some shit I’m worried about that shit is waste.

  8. Hey will l have a problem with my next door girl she loves me because my sister even told me that she loves me and when I go to approach her she tell me she doesn’t love me

  9. will good tips i just been hurt by my baby mom she went with another dude is it wrong to try and get her back i thought we were in love?

  10. Hey Will as a player u need to honest so I wanna know that do you go with players don’t say “I love you” and if you do ; what if she asks me how do I feel about her ? How as a player do I respond to this..

  11. Slindy I would only say I love you if you feel it and well into a committed relationship. You’d have to be with a girl for close to a year, whose shown that she’s loyal, trustworthy and supportive to give her my feelings like that. Being a player doesn’t mean not having feelings it means being smart about your feelings and protecting yourself. Until then, if she asks you that question, just say something like: “I care about you and like spending time with you.”

  12. Hey Paul, that’s a pretty broad question, the basics are sending her 3 to 5 texts to get her to feel comfortable then asking her to meet up.

  13. So the 3 to 5 text, what should they say? I mean the start of the conversation is hard to get it in gear I guess.

  14. 9 times out of 10, simple conversation is all you need, I start most of my messages with hi x, hows it going today? Then some small talk back and forth. Then a compliment on her looks and personality and asking her to meet up – that’s usually it. Then it’s just a matter of getting rid of the timewasters.

  15. hey will i tried using these tips and it seem like i got into some deep shit.why? Because i believe in the game,but any ways one day i set out to do things strickly the player way and it seemed like i was trying to hard to look in there eyes,hollering at everything slip up and holler at some friends daughter ,didn’t know it where her of course.blah blah really feeling down,pick me up out of my mess.Please thank you

  16. Hey Tae, being a player doesn’t just extend to women, it extends to the entire game of life. So you gotta put self respect before anything, that means not hollering at everything that moves and not doing anything that’s going to fuck you your ride like trying to pick up your friends daughter. I’ve got girls in my building or girls at the gym that are down but being a player in the game of life means you don’t shit where you eat.

    First things first, you have to be happy within you, you have to be able to sustain your own state. That way you’ll never be thirsty for girls, you’ll be able to wait for the girl that’s going to choose you because you’re not in a rush. Make sense?

  17. Heyy Will man i love those steps they’re really helpful but I went out with a girl( a previous friend) but then she asked me to just stay friends because she doesn’t want to ruin our friendship. I told her I wanted more than a friendship caused I wanna change for her.. She asked me to give her time to think about it. Do you think I should just say F*** her and move on or wait till she says something???

  18. hey will I started going out with this girl for 5 months we got engaged but her child father started being suicide so next thing you know she was talking about he said he need his family.So she spent the night with him,so I called and broke up with her but the way she change on me got me emotional.she said they didn’t do nothing.but I’m glad she left anyway but to me she is so wrong.can you shed some light on what’s going on with her, thanks Will.

  19. Hey Da sure, she cheated on you and she’s no good, you did the right thing to get rid of her. That’s point 1, point 2 is you should not be getting legally married in America, under no circumstances, alimony, child support, asset seizure, you put yourself at risk financially for the rest of your life. Be very careful with the girls you give your heart to, for me I need at least 6 months of dating before I consider getting exclusive, to make sure I’ve got the right one.

  20. Hey Will, love the tips.

    One thing I have a problem is the BB’s (Bitch butterflies), I can approach women when I want to and I have most of the times. But now I kinda fell off and started being lazy inside of my comfort zone.

    The major thing is rejection. Of course everyone gets rejected but I literally get rejected a lot and it’s no big deal. Sometimes I get 2/15 numbers. So now EVERYTIME I think of approaching a woman, I think of rejection.

    How do I get over these things. I am confident enough to approach and talk to women it’s just that fear of rejection and BB’s.

  21. Will i have a question regarding these points you mention when you say to “be cool”.

    I had for example 3 girls who I fucked once in the first date after that two of them where willing to meet up again but whenever I came up with a day in the weekend to meet up they flaked and came up with excuses. They never take the initiative to ask for a day to meet up it was always me who asked about it. The first girl I had contact via snapchat since February I meet her up and fucked her once time and from that time until June I suggested meet up like 6 times totally everytime she came up that she gonna do x and x, I clearly see on her snapchat story that she where partyin also choose better plan than meet up with me, note this girl was into me from begin and even after when we meet but become quite slowly with the time. For a couple 2 weeks ago I deleted whole her information details as number, snapchat and unfollowed her on Instagram. Yesterday she nocited and ask me why I removed her from snapchat. So I replied her with “i suggested many time to meet up but you avoid with excuses so I thought you was not willing to meet up anymore and I thought to move on” she replied with “you can’t say it was excuses since I go to school from Monday to Friday and I have planned my weekend, but okey” then I replied her “forget it, I wish you all luck”. She haven’t replied me and I take it like if she where genuinely interested and there was not an excuse then she probably chase me and explained herself but it’s clear she don’t care either.

    I honestly don’t want to have contact whith girls who don’t have any interest so that’s why I decided to be honest about it and tell them the truth. Do you think it was cool or did I make it right decision as a player when they ask why I removed them or why I don’t write to them anymore?

    Looking forward an answer from you!

    Best regards

  22. This was definitely not the right decision, any time you’re being reactive or emotional its always the wrong decision. When girls don’t want to see you again after sex its usually because either the sex was no good or you didn’t meet her emotional needs afterwards ie. cuddling for at least 20 minutes afterwards and walking her to the door. If she feels “used”, even though we know this is bullshit, she won’t come back again. I would make sure you have those areas handled to keep girls coming back, although don’t expect her to initiate contact, that’s your job. And if you do everything properly and she still doesn’t want to meet up again, its as simple as deleting her information.

  23. First of all thanx for you took time to respond.
    Regarding the sex Im still improve it,regarding the cuddling I have been with these girl whole night from have sex and talk to her as I where friend or boyfriend.
    I don’t really get it when you say it’s was wrong decision. This girl where obviously asking about why I removed her from snapchat and I told her the truth or what do you think ? Should I play like i wasn’t care if she won’t to meet up even if she still message me and use me like a validation tool?. you mention in the article to have abundance mentality and don’t tolerate bad behavior, wasn’t my message to her to tell her I have other choice that’s why I moved on and I don’t tolerate this behavior when she where won’t meet up but only talk to me why I removed her from snapchat?

    Don’t get me wrong I don’t mean be an asshole here I just trying to understand your points with abundance mentality and this with bad behavior.

  24. What I mean is if she’s not willing to meet up again, just delete her contact info or just don’t message her anymore, that includes responding to her messages. Telling her you have other choices is reactive and gives her validation by showing that you’re upset, the better move is not to respond.

  25. So how about when she flake and and reschedule meet ups but she come back one day and ask me to meet up? Should I respond her?

  26. Hey will this da again and ive really accomplished some great things since the last girl we talked about but this new shorty just came to my house today and we chilled i remeber the laws and what you told me about the other girl but i just want some advice on how to move in the direction of this new girl she cute and trying to give me some pussy but her direction is when im going to take her out to eat again and can i take her to work my car is messed up but i told her i will cause i can take my sister car i really feel like im in there but just not with the other request how can i make this smooth

  27. Hey man I wouldn’t do any of that shit, any type of girl who makes demands on you has to go or at least act right, you’re not a chauffeur, even if the pussy is good. Its your job to tell her no.

  28. Hi Will, I love this article. I have a few issues with myself. First is self confidence. I am not a ugly guy I know this. It’s just at times I feel down and bad about myself. I don’t have a car or my own place (yet) but I’m planning on it. I’m 22 years old. I plan on having my own car in a few months and my own place in about 5 months or so. But anyways that on top of just having low self esteem is bad. I messed up s bunch of situations I had with girls. Some of my issues is im shy, timid, awkward somewhat quiet, lack confidence and I stay to myself a lot of times. I also have social anxiety. I get mad at myself because of these things and I don’t know why I’m like this. I want to change. I feel I have the potential to get a lot of girls but I fuck almost every situation up. If I know a girl is interested in me or whatever I usually wait too long to make a move and the girl will end up losing interest or when I do I end up messing up and making things awkward. Any advice or anything that can help me out?

  29. Also another few things is I think I’m somewhat of a negative person. I have friends who tell me that I am being negative at certain times. How can I change that? Also for example I went out with a girl. She really liked me and I ended up getting her number and going out with her and the whole thing was a disaster I didn’t plan the date right and it was really awkward like almost the whole time. I didn’t know how to strike up conversation and when I did I couldn’t hold conversations. That’s another major issue I have. Holding conversation without it getting weird or awkward. Help plzzz

  30. Hey Eric, thanks for your kind words. First off, you’re still very young, so the fact you don’t have your own place isn’t a big deal, although you should be making that a priority. Secondly being able to approach and be confident is a function of state, you should check out my article on how to fight depression on how to be able to better control your state.

    Other than that stay positive and stay at it, keep going on dates and keep at it. No one masters anything right away, you have to keep putting in the work. Cheers buddy.

  31. Female here. This article has explained so much about men. Why men do and say what they do: Men train themselves to think and feel with their dick – not their brain and their “heart”.

    Why the world is in the sad state it’s in: Due to what’s running it: dicks.

    Why men only talk about things: They have trained themselves not to feel feelings by channeling their feelings into love of objects/the objective: Love money. Love possessions. Love sex. etc.

    Very revealing article. Thank you. .

  32. Thank you, but that’s half true. I’m not telling guys not to feel, I’m telling them to protect those feelings for someone who deserves them, you really have to screen hard to find a girl who’s trustworthy and kind.

    With that said, if you’re playing around with playgirls it’s important to keep your distance to some degree.

    As for loving money, sex and possesions, there’s no training involved there, men love all those things naturally.

  33. wow will great advice and it is really working
    who knows (once a player always a player)
    thanx Mr will

  34. Hi Will, doing a great job! I met a girl recently online, we talked intimately and before I knew it we were dating, so we finally met after a few weeks, we made out but i couldnt get to get laid with her that day because something urgent came up which wasn’t my fault, so we’ve been talking well since then but every time I invite her over she’s always giving me the “I’ll come see you” impression but it always end the same way she never shows up. Do you think as a player it was wrong to just ask her out quickly or she’s a flaker, or is it better to ask a girl you just met on a date first rather than to come to your place first?.I’m confused right now cause I see no reason why she wouldn’t come to my place. Please your everly effective advice is needed.

  35. Thanks Ibzz. First off you’re not dating her, it doesn’t count until she has sex, because all adult relationships start with sex. And she’s holding off giving you sex because like most women when it comes to dating, she’s wasting your time, the player move is to drop her like a bad habit, and in the future get faster at getting rid of timewasters. Make sense my man?

  36. Hey thank’s for those tip’s, i had been talking to a girl for about 8 months now she never gave it up i love pussy but when ever i was around her i felt content like she was mine so never rushed she moved away but i we kept talking she found a guy it seemed nd stp txting nd stoped answearing my calls, anyway’s i was always pouring out my soul to nd i was weak ASF, i got fustrated nd i stop txting her nd delete her num, she txted me once nd i deleted it nd did’nt reply…
    I just want to get back out there nd i want to be in control so nw i will follow ur guide nd let you knw how it wrk….
    Really great advice tho bcuz u made me understand where i was, i was getting played thanks again….

  37. Hey will, first let me say all of what u said is fa real nd second life is a game play or get played, rite nw i’m getting Zero pussy, i had this girl i cried nd told her i loved her nd she test me alot, women don’t like weak men.
    Anyways’s we had an argument nd i stped txing her this went on for about 3 week’s she txted me recently i did’nt reply.
    Rite nw i’m learning again how to interact with women nd not feel scared of rejection or lack in confidence so that’s what made me find your step’s i will let you knw how it go’s.
    The major thing i need to controle is, i don’t want to seem desperate or anxious when i’m with or around women it’s been a while since i got some pussy plz give me some advice on hw to be in controle of my bcuz some time i get nervous when i aproach a girl nd women sence that nd its turn’s them ofg

  38. Hey Sky, thanks for your kind words. And good for you for taking action towards a positive future. You’re right women don’t like weak or desperate guys and control is key. Part of that comes with time, but there is no better time to start then right now, practice control in every situation as much as you can. And check out my article: to get control over your dick and not come off as desperate. Also check out my article on how to handle approach anxiety.

  39. Thank you Sky, and yep thats the move, you fucked up, no sense feeling bad about it, just charge it to the game, keep moving forward and try and avoid the mistakes you made. All the best.

  40. Hey Will, I am really benefiting from this article and i appreciate you posting it. Getting girls numbers have never been my problem. My problem was being able to finesse them during text messages. Some girls are bad texters, a\and some waste time. So i was wondering: What do you talk about when you get their number and how do you transition it to getting them in the bed?

  41. Thanks BTC. If you’re not super experienced, the best move is to go for a coffee date/drink at a coffee shop/bar within 5 minutes of your place and try and pull her back to your place. Then follow my exact advice to the letter on how to get laid on the first date, I break down everything from where to sit, to what to say, to how to get her home, to how to escalate once she’s there

    As far as girls flaking/time wasting/not responding properly – that’s the game my man, 90% of girls are going to waste your time and dick you around. That’s why you have to be getting ready to drop her quick, if she doesn’t agree to meet up in 3-5 messages, drop her. If she flakes on the first date, or cancels, or tries to reschedule, or tries to change the venue last minute – drop her, from literally thousands of girls I can almost guarantee these girls are not going to fuck you.

  42. Hey will does this also work at high school and i am from de ghetto its very unusual to ask a girl out for coffee or bring her flowers so what do u suggest i do when i hit on her bcoz i cant ask her out am still in school please help

  43. It sure does, just ask her wherever the place to go for your neighborhood is, doesn’t have to be coffee, and def don’t bring flowers, thats the opposite of being a player, save that for loyal girlfriends.

  44. Great post Will! Ive found it months ago. You’re a pro, you helped me starting to live the lifestyle I’ve always been searching for. Good examples, very nice comparisons.

  45. As a girl being played by the same guy for 2years this read is heartbreaking. It’s all there in black and white yet I can’t walk away ?

  46. You’re The Best!! of the Best Will, I’m dating A lady who is keep holding off ’bout sex because of the venue, I’m still staying at my Mom’s crib and she won’t dear try to let me get laid,because I’m still staying under her Roof, so what should I do @Will?? please help me out..

  47. Yo Will i appreciate all the stuff you put out man, thank you, really. But i need some wisdom.
    What’s the difference between checking a girl over being in a bad mood/negative and her talking about something stressful/gossip from her week? When should i check her?
    Thanks in advance beast.

  48. Good question Adrian, the difference is as long as that stress and gossip is directed at other people it’s ok, every girl wants to talk about her day for like 20 minutes, its when its at you that its a problem. Also, you shouldn’t be expected to listen for 2 hours, but 20 minutes is reasonable.

  49. Will,

    I appreciated your article – no bullshit. I have one question for you –
    Do you think that you can be in a married open relationship and successfully be a part-time player? Asking the question from both the male and females point of view.

  50. Thanks Rob, but I’m not sure what you mean by part time, to me being a player is a full time lifestyle. I also don’t have experience with open relationships, and so far am not a big fan of them, I think they increase drama, this is especially dangerous when you’re married because your wife can take half your shit and get paid for life. The guy to check out for open relationships however is, I’d suggest you read everything he writes on the topic.

  51. Hey Will

    There’s dis gal I onced banged nd really messed up in Bed(bad sex), so nw she’s ignoring me. How do I make things right, or should I move on?

  52. Hey Will!
    Your material is so spot on, straight forward and easy to follow! Your articles are like a bible to me lol. You mention not to get hung up on making her come but rather try to fuck her well even if it means she doesn’t come, but isn’t making her come an important factor in having her keep on “coming” (pun intended :p) back? And shouldn’t that be the end goal? Obviously if she doesn’t come there’s no use fretting about it and, never, I’m told, ask her if she came. So, should the focus be on fucking her like a dominant man, which would entail, I presume, say, pounding her hard, or should the focus be on making her come which would entail more of the rocking, coital alignment position, giving more oral, or generally finding out what will make her come?
    Thanks for everything man!

  53. Thanks Ben, it is important but its not the only thing and some girls can’t cum with a guy, so you shouldn’t be to worried about it. Answers to all those questions in my sex book, cheers.

  54. Yo mister will freeman i read your article and it helped me soo much but i still have a question i have a friend who always have girls to fuck and stuff and when i ask him how he do that he only says”i know how to talk”i mean my friend only know hot girls and he always get naked pictures of them and (no homo) he is not that pretty and they always chasing him can you help me to get in the same thing as him?

  55. Oh I see.
    She was like the baby Daddy want to spend his night over with her and the 1 year baby, that’s what she told me, so I was planning to play your cards which is keep it Cool, avoid drama and keep Fucking good until she decides to leave or come back.
    So Will is that correct or not, would you please help me out???

  56. Oh I see.
    She was like the baby Daddy want to spend his night over with her and the 1 year baby, that’s what she told me, so I was planning to play your cards which is keep it Cool, avoid drama and keep Fucking good until she decides to leave or come back.
    So Will is that correct or not, would you please help me out???

  57. Sounds like you’re in a relationship with this girl? if you are I’d get out of it. And if it’s casual, I woulnd’t worry about what she’s doing when you’re not around.

  58. Yes I’m in a relationship with her, I should just get out okay I see,Will it’s kinda difficult ‘coz it’s been 9 months I’m with her and I love her

  59. Great article Will. I have two questions:
    1. How do you suggest I go about approaching girls at my University campus?
    2. When I’m playing the numbers game though online dating, what do you recommend for the opener?

  60. Hey, Will, a woman here, but I’m not gonna vent about feminist stuff or be negative. Kudos for the article – you’re making people more confident in themselves and that’s a good thing (as long as the other party is not offended by your behaviour or the fact you don’t commit, I see nothing bad in playing the field). If a woman’s smart enough she’ll see through your plans (sex only) and either walk away or go with it if it suits her. The fact that 90% of us choose to delude ourselves a relationship is gonna happen is wholly our own problem.
    I have a question though – do players ever settle down? Is there such a thing as a woman who’s passed the trial period that you get serious about? I’m just curious – a whole lifetime of constantly banging new girls seems pretty exciting but also kinda tiring.

  61. Thanks Rina. I’ve gotten serious with a few girls, and yes it is tiring, the best thing is falling in love but you can’t force that. Eventually most players “settle down” in theory, but at least half if not more of those guys end up cheating.

  62. I see. The endless need to conquer new stuff – you just can’t get exclusive with someone for too long or you get bored? I’m asking because as a woman I’m up for something serious, but I’m pretty sure the guy is playing me :) I guess I should just embrace the good moments and get the relationship idea out of my head with him – some types of people aren’t made for that

  63. Ey Will I’ve got a problem with finance, actually I’m broke most of the time and I’m so stingy, and I’ve been dating this Gal for 10 months while I’m unemployed and she sometimes ask for money hairstyle,nails fix, lunch and etc… but I don’t usually buy those stunt.. am I wrong Will or?Please help

  64. Nah dude, you’re right, any girl asking for money, hair and nails isn’t the one for you, especially if you she knows you’re struggling. I pay for meals or coffee with a girl, but not because she’s demanding it, but because I choose to.

    I’d kick her to the curb and start getting your money right, you can check out my book how to sell also check out my article on how to develop your financial gameplan.

  65. hey will. im an entrepreneur and live a small town where pretty women are scarce. should i move to the big city so i can play my game well and hopefully end up with a pretty but expensive wife. or should i stay here and focus on getting money while i remain unhappy with the woman i meet?

  66. I’d focus on getting money but maybe expand your reach to farther outside of your small town, big city living will double your expenses, which is not good as an entrepreneur, maybe spread a wide net and be willing to drive to meet girls

  67. Hey Will,

    Love the post. Was wondering if you could help me out. I’m interested in this guy. He’s been after me for almost 6 years. Now that I’ve left my ex and showed him interest he backs away. Is this a player move? I went to his house and made out, we’ve casually hung out/lunch cuz we good friends.

    He’s 16 years my senior. Is the fact that I’m young and he’s close to 50 mean he doesn’t believe me or he just wants to sleep with me. I want a relationship with him. I’ve tried telling him the truth that I like him and want to be serious but he doesn’t make an effort to text or call me.

    We work together and he flirts at work and sometimes invites me over to his place (no sex- I want to but I don’t want him to think I’m easy). He’s constantly telling co-workers I’m a player but when we together he declares his love to me and how much he wants to be with me. Is this player games? Does he really like me or is he intimidated by me? Please help thanks.

  68. Hey Brother

    Was trying to find your email adress to contact you, but to no avail.

    So I’m commenting here instead hoping you’d see this.

    I just wanted to thank you honestly for the path that I am on now, and continually am working towards.

    I have been consuming pretty much everything you have, for the past 3 months, and almost feel guilty for the amount of happiness I’m experiencing.

    You honestly change lives and I wish you all the success in the world and for the future.

    Hoping that you will keep on your journey

  69. Will I’m in a 1 year 5 months relationship and I’m already committed to this lady but the problem is that I’m too insure, would please help on this one…

  70. Hey Will, great article! I’m 22 with a full time job, my own place, and a new car. Women say I’m attractive but also think I’m 16 years old which stops many of them from hooking up with me. How do I get around that?

  71. Aim for 19 year olds, where it will seem like less of an age gap, and consider yourself lucky, I looked the same way at 22, but it means you’ll always look young for your age, which pays off as you get older

  72. Wiil am in a 1 year 5 months relationship and I’m already committed to her, but the problem is that most of the time I get too insecure about her and that makes me a dick, so please help me out am confused about what to do next…

  73. Wiil am in a 1 year 5 months relationship and I’m already committed to her, but the problem is that most of the time I get too insecure about her and that makes me a dick, so please help me out am confused about what to do next…

  74. so will i have a problem I’ve fucked many girls one time and they won’t return one day i meet one girl that i have fucked and she yold me that my penis is small so how do i deal with that

  75. Hi Will really helpful information , ive just got dumped for someone else and im tied of bieng at the bottom , im finishing highschool next year and what to kick start that player lifestyle after highschool, any tips on how to overcome my fear of talking to girls and boost my confidence ?

  76. Will,

    Woman here! I would like to compliment you on all the work you have done! Congratulations, I see this post and your books as tools in helping mean over come several life factors. You are helping them build confidence within their self and we all know once you have confidence the rest falls into place.

    I stumbled across your article, because of a man of course. I am 40 year old, single, never married (by choice), and no kids. I met this man who fit me perfectly. I mean perfectly! Anyway shit got crazy and we stopped talking so I turned to the internet trying to understand.

    When I ran across your article I realized that he had checked every box! He did exactly what you said to the letter and it worked! I found my self falling in love with him after 30 days and only 5 times of sex!

    It has been a long road. I did betray him and he did put me in check real quick, which made me rethink what I wanted. Anyway going forward him and I are friends now and have went back to just briefly talking.

    My point of the post, is for all the men…..Will’s advice really does work and take it as law. But also remember women have a mind too, and sometimes we may just not be into you or ready for what you are thinking. In saying this that is ok as well, because take it as a learning lesson and move on.

    From my view, the one thing that attracts me to a man is him getting in my level. Short version if I am drinking a beer, he should drink a beer, if I am drink wine, he should drink wine or liquor. Women look for the common ground to start.

    Will I can not thank you enough, because as an alpha female you are exactly right! I do not like week men! (Moments and circumstances are a different story)

    And I love your comment about …”charge it to the game”

  77. Hi Ms Alpha, I really appreciate your comment and your story. I am also happy to hear that my article was able to help you understand your situation and get some clarity. Best of luck in the future.

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